"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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R.I.P. Nate Dogg

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I don't know if I'm the only one, but this tore me up. I was a huge Nate Dogg fan, Regulate was definitely one of my top five favorite songs of all time.

He was only 41. He had a history of strokes, beginning in his thirties. You would think though that for the money he had, his doctors would have been doing everything they could in the way of preventative treatment.

I feel cheated. Like we were entitled to another three decades of his baritone crooning. We lost a real talent, whether or not rap music was your thing, the man was very good at what he did. R.I.P Nate Dogg.

In other death related news in my life, a former classmate hung herself last weekend. Never would have thought she would have been the type to do it either. She was a real sweetheart, genuinely nice to everybody regardless of who you were. She had a sort of presence to her. Could literally light up a room. I hadn't spoken to her in a few years, but she was one of the least-depressed people I have ever known, or so I thought. A genuine genius from what I can remember. It just goes to show that under the surface, we really don't know a whole lot about the people in our lives, and that those we percieve as the least troubled can be at the edge at any time.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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magickarl said:
I don't know if I'm the only one, but this tore me up. I was a huge Nate Dogg fan, Regulate was definitely one of my top five favorite songs of all time.

He was only 41. He had a history of strokes, beginning in his thirties. You would think though that for the money he had, his doctors would have been doing everything they could in the way of preventative treatment.

I feel cheated. Like we were entitled to another three decades of his baritone crooning. We lost a real talent, whether or not rap music was your thing, the man was very good at what he did. R.I.P Nate Dogg.
Yeah, I'm with you man. I couldn't believe it when I heard it on my way into work the other day. I posted some of his songs in the "Anti-AFC Songs" thread on the day. It's safe to say that hip hop hooks will never be the same anymore. Mount Up!

magickarl said:
In other death related news in my life, a former classmate hung herself last weekend. Never would have thought she would have been the type to do it either. She was a real sweetheart, genuinely nice to everybody regardless of who you were. She had a sort of presence to her. Could literally light up a room. I hadn't spoken to her in a few years, but she was one of the least-depressed people I have ever known, or so I thought. A genuine genius from what I can remember. It just goes to show that under the surface, we really don't know a whole lot about the people in our lives, and that those we percieve as the least troubled can be at the edge at any time.
I'm sorry to hear this. It's thing like this that make you look differently at situations. I've had to deal with this way too many times in my life, and it just gets you thinking about the things that set people off. There have even been discussions on this forum that have brought back memories of identical situations where a girl I knew killed herself over. It bothers me seeing some people here joke about treating people like **** sometimes. But... You gotta learn what to listen to and what not.

Keep your head up... "Still claimin D.P.G., till the day I D.I.E."
 

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Money? You little boys think that a rapper makes money? A few do. 98% of the ones you listen to make nothing. Go read about how the business works. A manager often takes 50% BEFORE expenses!
 

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I liked many of Nate Dogg's songs.

It is sad to see him go so soon.

Wherever he goes, he'll have hoes.
 

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Money? You little boys think that a rapper makes money? A few do. 98% of the ones you listen to make nothing. Go read about how the business works. A manager often takes 50% BEFORE expenses!
I think that a rapper on average probably makes more than you or me. Even if that doesn't mean bentley rich. I'm well aware of how the music industry works. I'm also aware that 10% of $1m is still $100,000, which is far from the poor-house, and is definitely enough money to afford decent health insurance.

Sheeet, I only make $16/hr and I can afford health insurance.

Most rappers wind up pocketing high-middle class incomes at the end of the day. Not the lavish kind of money you see in the video, but a comfortable living. Nate Dogg, by the way, had a net worth of $15m He could probably afford the doctors visit.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BigJimbo said:
Money? You little boys think that a rapper makes money? A few do. 98% of the ones you listen to make nothing. Go read about how the business works. A manager often takes 50% BEFORE expenses!
Not to mention that the rap business is all about schmoozing everyone else to get into their next song/video, and about impressing people by spending lots of cash to put up an image.

These people more often than not don't have any kind of tangible assets outside of their income from the music business, and once their cash flow dwindles, end up becoming no better off than they were when they first started. All because of a lack of understanding of how money works.
 

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I thought Nate Dogg is, his legacy will prove, a visionary in tone and harmony in rap/R&B music.

The cat was talented as fvck which is why everyone wanted his action in their music.

The dude'll be missed.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
I thought Nate Dogg is, his legacy will prove, a visionary in tone and harmony in rap/R&B music.

The cat was talented as fvck which is why everyone wanted his action in their music.

The dude'll be missed.
+1

R.I.P. Nate Dogg
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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