"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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quick tip on being a mystery

check_mate_kid_uk

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i always noticed when i tell some one somthing i put in a lot of detail, sure this can sometimes be good, but genraly giving too much detail is bad.

ever noticed that when people leave out some important details it leaves you wondering about them and you are very intrested about trying to find out more.

well if you miss out minor details you will be a mystery the girl will not know the small details and will be very intrested because she does not know exactly what happened

here is an example that made me think of writing this

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70220

read regrees post and notice he did not mention where they where when she saw these print outs, where they in school? libary? could have even be at his house!

he has given the important details but by leaving out minor details he makes us wonder and this is how you should say things, because when you say it all then there is nothing to make them wonder, you are not leaving anything a mystery so leave out minor details to make it a mystery!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Have you field tested this? It's a really big difference between message board and the reality.
 

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And you better be able to speak well when you're slowly unraveling yourself. I've become so much of a mystery that I can't unmystify myself well...
 

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Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
And you better be able to speak well when you're slowly unraveling yourself. I've become so much of a mystery that I can't unmystify myself well...
I know exactly what you're saying, lately I've been too mysterious (not wanting to be mysterious, but to being pissed off for some reason and not wanting to carry conversation), that I'm coming across as lacking.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Originally posted by Ajax
Have you field tested this? It's a really big difference between message board and the reality.
i know from my experince when some one tells me somthing and misses out minor details im always egar to find out those minor details, but if they give every detail its finished you do not persure the story you do not ask questions!

If you give to much detail girls dont ask questions partly because you answered them but thats the whole point, you want them to aks questions and if you leave out some details they will ask you about it!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Isn't trying to be a mistery just hiding things about yourself and thus hindering your spontaneousity? Seems much more like a hindrance than a help.

E.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Originally posted by Etienne
Isn't trying to be a mistery just hiding things about yourself and thus hindering your spontaneousity? Seems much more like a hindrance than a help.

E.
to tell you the truth i could not think og what to call this, just that by not giving the details you remain a mystery and there for people seem to be more imtrested in uncovering your story rather then just not caring because they know everything
 
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