Quick question

[amoka]

I have a friend, lets call her Kate, who broke up with her boyfriend, call him Steve, because of some reasons unknown to me. I know both Steve and Kate but don't know Steve as much as Kate. At one time during their relationship, Kate told Steve she does not want a relationship anymore and that he should find another woman to date. They still did things together as "boyfriend and girlfriend". So Steve was in limbo -- was not sure how to refer to Kate (boyfriend or pure friend). So few days ago I saw Kate and as we were talking I learned that Steve finally found a new girl that he is dating but said he is not that thrilled about the new girl. He went on a date with the new girl and possibly have had sex with her. This devastated Kate a bit and now she "misses" him. And yes they still talk. The problem is that both Steve and Kate have feelings for one another and Kate now wants Steve back. According to Kate, Steve and the new girl just kissed when they went on a date at least four times and their was nothing further. But she doubt there that because she said Steve is known to be a man-wh0re. And I know he likes the company of women...

This is where things get more interesting, fellas. They both like each other to the extend that Steve is willing to drop dead the newly found girl to get back with Kate. But who is to say the cycle won't continue? Also, Kate is not a resident of the US, she is on F1 visa. They both have planned to get married so that she can one day acquire her residency also. But who is to say, she won't leave him completely after such a deal is obtained? (I did not tell her this ) Both of these folks are my friends, though I know Kate more. I told her to not risk it getting back to Steve purely because of some papers because the divorce may be more painful than the temporary break-up she is experiencing, particularly she was the one that did not have feelings for him anymore and that he went on a date with another woman. But then again, it is her fault to have told him to go date other people. Anyway, what do you all suggest? Should they get back together and work things out so they both can "happily" be married or just forget about the whole deal?

I am yet to talk to Steve regarding the matter. I know he still like her.... anyway, just want to see what you all think about this.

 

[DJDamage]

Should they get back together and work things out so they both can "happily" be married or just forget about the whole deal?

No. They should forget about the whole thing.

Kate is the classic case of a woman wanting to have her cake and eat it too.

Kate was the one who pushed Steve away because she didn't think her relationship was all that it was cracked to be and she wanted to ride someone else's c0ck. However after seeing/experiencing what is out there and finding out that Steve is doing just fine by doing someone else, she got buyers regrets (also there aren't enough suckers out there who will marry her so she can get a resident visa).

But not to worry, I am sure she will find a way to manipulate herself back into his life and they will get married and be miserable together for years to come.

 

[Deep Dish]

Currently, I know a very hot Russian girl who is on a "green card marriage." When someone asked if she loves her husband, she was left speechless and couldn't answer the question. Judging by her behaviors, specifically towards me, I have doubts she will remain loyal throughout the course of her marriage. Also, years ago I was set-up on a blind date from hell with a Mexican girl who was looking for an American hubby, quick. I have no idea what were the circumstances and considerations surrounding the Russian girl's marriage -- maybe it wasn't rushed and arbitrary, maybe it was protracted and began as "love" -- but needless to say her motives were tainted, and tainted motivations can never be ruled out. So, I have no advice what should be the course of action but except to concur with the caveat emptor.

I have a friend, lets call her Kate, who broke up with her boyfriend, call him Steve, because of some reasons unknown to me.

By the way, everybody, when using fake names in conveying a story, just use fake names. Please don't inform the readers the names have been changed; it's annoying. Sorry, this is one of my pet peeves.