"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Quick Question guys

oscarxp25

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First: Over the last year, I have progressed socially and I have this site to thank.


The question: For those of you who have progressed, do you ever get mad at yourself for being naive, foolish, and an AFC for all those years. I have met great girls over the last year and I kick myself for staying around with the ones who I LET bring me down.

Is it normal to have some self-loathing?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oscarxp25 said:
The question: For those of you who have progressed, do you ever get mad at yourself for being naive, foolish, and an AFC for all those years. I have met great girls over the last year and I kick myself for staying around with the ones who I LET bring me down.
Hell no man. Being angry, frustrated or regretful is a waste of your time. Instead of sobbing or regretting things you've done in the past, you should embrace them and learn from your mistakes! I was a big time AFC years ago, but that period is over, and looking back on it, it taught me some skills I never would have learned without that period in my life.

Life is too short to regret things. Instead of focusing on the past, focus on the future! Ask yourself: "How can I do better", instead of "Why was I such a loser?". Keep asking, and you'll become even better than you are now!

oscarxp25 said:
Is it normal to have some self-loathing?
No, it's a waste of your time, and an AFC trait. It's a sign you lack the tools to fix yourself and ultimately become a man. Because a real man, he accepts himself and loves himself over anyone else!
 

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Naa I don't. I wish I knew what I knew now back then but there's no way you can ever know everything. All you can do is do the best you can with the knowledge you have at that time.

Don't look at the past man. Cut your losses and make from now until the end of your life the best it can be.
 
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