Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Aetolia

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ok read some of the bible, and even used the search button (yes i know, amazing), and i still didn't/haven't found quite what i'm looking for.

few general questions really

1. Kino in the classroom, i sit behind a particular lady and wanted to know what i could get in from here, she seems to be comfortable around me, i was wondering about a back rub/massage, too much? i've known here for about 4 or 5 weeks tops, too fast?

2. How to ask for the first date, traditional "would you like to go out <name of activity here> with me" or should i just walk up to her and say something like "Hey, when are you going to ask me out?" to start conversation

3. Here's the pain in the ass part, her mother god bless her soul, has been feeding her crap half her life about how men are useless and not to be trusted, i of course want to get in her pants eventually, so we're gonna have to work on that, any advice?

4. She's a twin, a very very hot twin, which sounds nice, but in the end i'm thinking i'm only gonna get to keep one, they look the same, act almost the same and i can't decide (i'm so bad)

all right that's about it, any help would be much appreciated

<update> i'm pretty sure i've narrowed it down to just one of them, but i would still like to keep the other as a backup, how would i go about dating one, without isolating the other?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bigboom

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tjee man, take it easy.

- No, don't ask her to give a massage be4 you even spoke to here. Massages are quite intimate, you should do this after a succesfull date

- No, don't expect the girl to ask you out for a date. So do not ask for htat. Just ask her out, and show confident about the fact that she will say yes when doing so (it can be a *****, ive some troubles with that also sometimes;-) )

- Don't worry about this one. If you are doing right its hard for her so supress her natural feelings...even if her mom told her so.

- This is funny. Why care? Just start with one of them. Be nice to both of them. Perhaps you **** up with both, and if you are the great stud you want to be, the other one will be jealous. It's a great way to measure the way you are doing it right now :D
 

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LOL, that's awesome. I had the same problem, except for me, they weren't even twins, just sisters a year apart and I still was confusing their names, made me feel like an idiot.
 

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Originally posted by Aetolia

1. Kino in the classroom, i sit behind a particular lady and wanted to know what i could get in from here, she seems to be comfortable around me, i was wondering about a back rub/massage, too much? i've known here for about 4 or 5 weeks tops, too fast?
It's not too fast but it's pathetic. You're not paying attention in class (god forbid) and you're distracting others. Out of class room.(not that it doesn't work, I just don't want you doing it.)
Originally posted by Aetolia

2. How to ask for the first date, traditional "would you like to go out <name of activity here> with me" or should i just walk up to her and say something like "Hey, when are you going to ask me out?" to start conversation
You'd be amazed how well it works when you just walk up and do it instead of thinking about it for 3 weeks. Stop thinking. Drop it. Forget about it.
Originally posted by Aetolia

3. Here's the pain in the ass part, her mother god bless her soul, has been feeding her crap half her life about how men are useless and not to be trusted, i of course want to get in her pants eventually, so we're gonna have to work on that, any advice?
So has your own mother. Get **** started and let it flow from there. Pretty soon it will do itself and you won't spend countless hours imagining situations that will never happen. Trust me ;)

Originally posted by Aetolia

4. She's a twin, a very very hot twin, which sounds nice, but in the end i'm thinking i'm only gonna get to keep one, they look the same, act almost the same and i can't decide (i'm so bad)
Both?
 
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