Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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QuIjebo

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What’s up every one. I’m sort of doing a boot camp thing right now, need some help, with this translation. I’ve gotten a few more girl’s #’s about 7 all together, yep you guys are right, asking the girl out is the easy part. Anyway I call this girl up, I ask her out to a coffee shop.

When I walk in and sit across from her, we start talking. I was feeling good until she told me she was 25 ( I’m 21) and she has a brother that’s 23. Basically from that, I turn into a total AFC, I’m like, wow, this girl couldn’t like me I’m too young for her, and who wants to date someone younger than her brother lol. Anyway there were a lot of awkward pauses in our conversation and I must have seemed all nervous or bothered (or at least that is how I perceive it), and overall I was thinking she can’t like me this isn’t going to work. We talk for about an Hour, hour and a half at the most.

She tells me that she is not interested in marrying anyone, and loves her freedom. I looked at Pooks “********”, so I think I can understand that.

Anyway at the end when were both getting up to leave, she says “Give me a call sometime”.

What does this mean in ********? ( Give me a call sometime) I thought the date went badly, and she’s asking me to call her? Maybe I wasn’t as bad as I thought I was, or maybe she was just trying to be nice. Considering the circumstances and what happened ( the age thing and what she said,she might try to put me in the friend zone), should I even bother calling her?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DonJuanMonk

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"Give her a call sometime" = Give her a call sometime.

Grow some brain cells.
 

josh1

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"I’m like, wow, this girl couldn’t like me I’m too young for her"

Absolutely untrue. Play your game, forget the age.


"overall I was thinking she can’t like me this isn’t going to work"
Why were you thinking like that man ???? It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Always carry a positive mindset, people can feel it.


"We talk for about an Hour, hour and a half at the most"
Unless she was REALLY bored and had nothing to do, talking for over an hour means she liked it.


"She tells me that she is not interested in marrying anyone, and loves her freedom."
Yes and one (3yrs older than me) also kept giving me all sort of sh!t like that, that she can't marry me, she wants someone older etc. etc.
There are many reasons that women put barriers like this, but in most cases you can get over them.
In my instance I just kept playing my part until all her barriers fell, suddenly she's interested in marriage and doesn't care that I'm younger. :D

She may put barriers because:
1) She doesn't want to come off as a sl*t, or easy to get
2) She may be afraid
3) Making you go through tests to see if you're man enough

ANYWAY- don't think about it, just play your game.

Don't worry about the wrong things you did in this meeting, if she likes you, it won't matter.

Call her, play your game, have a positive mindset no matter what happens.
 

nishbuk

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if she likes you, it won't matter.
This is the real key. Women are idiots this way. They will cut a guy a HELL of alot of slack if they are genuinely interested in you. That's the girl you want.
 
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