"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've started recently trying some techniques on this girl...

but the thing is I think i may of done it wrong, too much neg hits and **** funny ..

like for instance she sed shed gone up a bra size , so i just go put on weight have you lol ands shes all you want me too hate you do you? and says **** like dont fall on a spike too me lol

thing is she thinks i'm a ******* now says i've been acting different the past few weeks.

and now shes constantly bein a ***** too me, not that it bothers me but...

what i'm trying too figure out if is this a good responce or not ?.. I mean the fact that she thinks i think im too good for her and that its effected her enough to turn it back on me could be considered a good thing ... or is it just shes gonna be thinking im a ******* and not want anymore too do with me? , i can't figure it out .. if this is the right way too go or not :S

Cheers Alex
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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there's so much info out there...

if she's insecure about her weight, watch the neg-hits
if she starts b.itching at you, just say "wow, where's your sense of humor?"

etc.

is she laughing when she's playing back with you?
 

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Originally posted by Aresx


is she laughing when she's playing back with you?

nah shes not ..we've known each other for ages but she actually thinks im a As*hole now lol.

She is really self concious bout her weight, so I know i shouldn't say stuff like that ... but I sort of wanted her too feel bad :D even though I hinted i was joking
 

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girls are NEVER "sort of" self-conscious about their weight...

they either are or aren't.

you wanted her to feel bad? wrong. want her to doubt her attractiveness? correct. if she already doubts it, you don't need to add to the doubt.

if she's your friend, apologize. if she's a girl you're trying to game... i don't know. ask someone else.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Aresx


you wanted her to feel bad? wrong. want her to doubt her attractiveness? correct. if she already doubts it, you don't need to add to the doubt.

yeah well shes had like 10+ blokes interested in her in the past 4 weeks ..that was wat i weas trying too do make her doubt her attractiveness too me .. there is some history behind us i dont want her as a friend though , I just want too f*ck and get out :D
 

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If she brings up any weight issues, just listen and let her talk but don't make any smart a$$ comments. Then change the subject as soon as possible because it seems this is a sensitive issue for her. Find something else to bust on her about.
 

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You've overdone it with neg hits and C+F. People often do this when they first learn of the techniques.

To her you have become a JERK. You don't want to be that. You are breaking rapport the way you are going, when you need to build rapport.

Neg hits are for breaking down b1tch shields. They are NOT insults. I am not gonna explain what they are, but if she isn't a HB9 or 10 (or thinks she is, because she is an attention wh0re or stripper), then you don't need to be using neg hits. Even if you were going to use them you'd use them only a couple of times, not all the time every time you see her.

http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/03_Approaching/05_Neg_Hits/neghits_xp.shtml

With C+F you can't use it 24/7 all the time, you will come off as some sort of arrogant jackass. Use it liberally throughout an encounter and try to have some substance to the interaction other than C+F comments.

All chicks are conscious of their weight, making fun of it generally won't help you out.
 
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