"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Question for SSauve DJs: Do you meet girls parents?

Lostinlove

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Do you guys meet a girls parents to see how her family life is to determine if she is a catch?

Do girls you meet offer for you to meet their parents or do djs never meet the parents or familes of girls they are seeing and why not?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Night-hawk

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I shoot to bring a girl around my friends or family first. I would not want to be introduced to a girls family because I don't want to give false impressions of my commitment or investment.
 

zekko

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Lostinlove said:
Do you guys meet a girls parents to see how her family life is to determine if she is a catch?
For the guys who are heavily into "jerk game", I wonder if they continue the @sshole act when they are around her parents? I could just see the father chasing the douchebag out of the house with a shotgun.
 

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zekko said:
For the guys who are heavily into "jerk game", I wonder if they continue the @sshole act when they are around her parents? I could just see the father chasing the douchebag out of the house with a shotgun.

I wonder if djs ever get to meet a girls parents to screen her family or they just arent invited to meet them.
 

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I don't seek them out, but I don't run, either. Mothers love me. I have never met one that didn't. I got one to agree to a mother-daughter, but the daughter wouldn't do it :(
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SoSuave666

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Bible_Belt said:
I don't seek them out, but I don't run, either. Mothers love me. I have never met one that didn't. I got one to agree to a mother-daughter, but the daughter wouldn't do it :(
Mothers love me too...just game her. Not in the way of seduction, but push her buttons and game a bit and they will always give you their blessings.

Fathers I have much more trouble with. Not trouble...but the dynamic is always very strange. They like that I have a good job, make good money, am respectful, all that. But I'm sure they've also been told how I can "be an a$$hole" and sometimes "don't treat her well" and all the other things women complain about. I generally feel like fathers don't have too much of a problem with me though. There's always that strange dynamic, where they know I'm banging their precious daughter and there's nothing they can do about it. I ALWAYS get the "treat my daughter right" speech--and I think this is a sign of respect from one man to another. They recognize you as a serious male, and not some little simp who they don't have to worry about plugging their daughters or taking advantage of her.
 

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I always wait for her to introduce me to her parents first. It's an indicator that she wants to move forward with a LTR. If you introduce her to your folks too soon, you may appear to be rushing things.
 
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