Question for all..

[tssme]

..in your experience what works better-

Asking a girl for a dance straight up or trying to get a conversation going before asking for the dance?

I ask this because I went out to this bar/club on Saturday. I was mostly in the club section. Not a great place to mingle but they had some very good music. It was crowded and music was loud. The most amount of flirting that I was able to achieve was girls walking by..some girls would respond back..trade a few laughs and move on..others would keep passing. Regardless, I was having a blast with my friends (which is more important for me anyways). I did approached a few girls and asked if they wanted to dance and got denied EVERY F-ING TIME. Not that its a huge deal..but just made me wonder if just making small talk before asking for a dance was a better idea. And if so..is that pretty much the rule of thumb?

Btw..what's the etiquette for dancing? I've seen some guys dancing by themselves and it just looks awkward I think. Am I wrong?

 

[gottiwill]

Str8 up.
but I'm hott and I work a heavy social value (and I make sure they see it) before going up. So IDK

 

[Violent V]

Talking is for women. Your uncomfortably stepping in her field of expertise in order to attract her because you want her. Dancing/acting is for men. If she likes you she will uncomfortably step into your field of expertise without hesitation because she wants you. From my experience, If you want them to really see you sexually, then straight up.

The key is to act, not react. Don't hesitate. Go for what you want and the take the lead. Taking control like this will leave them feeling seduced i guess, becuase its masculine to see you like something and your taking it.

 

[r0cky]

In my experience, I've never been able to dance with a unfamiliar girl byasking her first. Going straight up and dancing with her without asking has a 30% chance of working for me. The best way for me has been with social proof or preselection. For example if I look like im having a blast and go up to a girl and give her a high 5, 90% of the time she will high five me back and from then I can pull her up to dance. Or if I'm already dancing with a chick and the other girl sees me, I can go up to her and she's likely to accept.

 

[619joe]

Ive never been a fan of just grabbing the girl and starting to dance.

I just do a lil kino maybe on arm or shoulder,look her in the eyes and say "lets dance" and then smile.It works well.

But hell some days you will just end up getting rejected either way.I went to another dance at this other spot and I got rejected quite a few times which I found unusual.I talked to my buddy from that area and he said the girls here are just b itchy like that so its understandable if you get rejected man its happened to everyone