Question about acting like a "gentleman"

[Teh_Wolf]

me and my buddy are on a trip this weekend. We were practicing approaching but found these two chicks that we decided just to hang put with. We were at the ice rink last night and I sat down at this table that happened to have only three chairs, so my buddy takes the other one and the two girls are kinda sharing one. I suggested they go grab a chair from another table and they suggested I do it.my buddy ended up getting bit I was wondering

is of bad if you just do stuff like that to kinda take care of them a
little bit. Like if you just open the door not to win them over or suckup but just being friendly that's Cool right. Its not really what you do there its
more how you do it right

 

[SmellyOrc]

little bit. Like if you just open the door not to win them over or suckup but just being friendly that's Cool right. Its not really what you do there its
more how you do it right

It's more about WHY you do it. If you're doing it because you're a gentleman, go ahead. No one will think of you as an AFC.
Now, if you do it so you 'look good/nice', that will come over as AFC-behavior.
The why influences the how, so get the why fixed in your mind, and get it done.

 

[mpimpin]

I've always opened doors (not meaning car doors, thats for special occasions) and always given up my seat to a girl no matter who it is, mom, sister, friend, girlfriend etc.

I gave up my seat to this fat girl thats in my lab group the other day.

Thats just my gentleman like behavior. I don't do it to try to attract anybody. I do it because it makes me feel good.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I suggested they go grab a chair from another table and they suggested I do it

You have to beat them to the punch - be the first one to spot the opportunity to be chivalrous and do it before they request. I'll be very polite if it is of my own initiative, but outright rude if a girl is trying to tell me what to do. In your scenario, I would have just gone and gotten the chair without saying anything, but after the girl told me to, I would be like - "What? Are your legs broken?" Maybe that pisses her off, but it is still better than being told what to do. Again, just spot the opportunity before she does.

 

[SinJester]

If your gonna do it just throw in some C+F

"You know I usually charge for this" or any version of that is one of my fav lines. Sometimes I just plain refuse just for a bit of fun. But I'm still a nice guy without being the "nice guy". Like they said it's just how you do it. Experiment.

 

[Teh_Wolf]

eah that's what I was thinking. If if I had just done it it woulda been fine but when they said I should I didnt. My bud ended up doing it. Lol so I ran into them today and they invited me and my friend to this hockey game that some guys that were trying to hang out with them told them about. They told the guys they hate hockey and turned around and game me an invite to it lol

 

[Cry For Love]

me and my buddy are on a trip this weekend. We were practicing approaching but found these two chicks that we decided just to hang put with. We were at the ice rink last night and I sat down at this table that happened to have only three chairs, so my buddy takes the other one and the two girls are kinda sharing one. I suggested they go grab a chair from another table and they suggested I do it.my buddy ended up getting bit I was wondering

is of bad if you just do stuff like that to kinda take care of them a
little bit. Like if you just open the door not to win them over or suckup but just being friendly that's Cool right. Its not really what you do there its
more how you do it right

thats a good time to make a little nag like "hehe you chicks should sit on our laps". them suggesting you to get a chair for them seems like a sh*t test though, unless they really couldnt get it themselves for some reason. thats the trouble with these situations, if you do what the girl says you will get shot down.