"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Put down from what I learned in the bible

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So at work who apparently claims he has slept with over 500 women. Tells me that all the knowledge I know is bullsh!t. I told him how I am the great catch and how I am confident and he says "You tell yourself that, but you will never BECOME that" and I told him "Act as if you are and you shall become" and he says that how will I better myself when I think I am the sh!t right now how will I better myself when I don't open myself for improvement. I told him how if a girl says "Lets just be friends" then that's her way of rejecting you in a nice way. I told him about the most people that get rejected is the most that get laid and I'm not afraid to talk to women - yet he insists that

Last thing he mentioned was If you act "Confident" you never truly will be confident. I told him that I don't give a fvck what anyone else thinks and he says "You know THAT'S your problem. You are walking around thinking you are the sh!t not caring what anyone else thinks but yourself - makes YOU LOOK BAD. Because everyone else sees you as a poser. If you stop acting like something you're not then you have room to grow. But if you walk around thinking you are a 10 when you really are a 5... You will never truly be a 10 because you won't improve yourself. If you walk around thinking you are a 5, you CAN improve yourself."

Discuss.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I agree with his points to be honest. I'm not a fan of people who think they are the **** when they clearly aren't. And I know no guys who are good with women who have this attitude. I do know guys who are intrinsically confident and humble about it, and open to the concept of striving to improve though.
 

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The DJB has a LOT of bullsh!t in it, especially Pook. Don't trust it, trust what your experiences show you.
 

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The bit about making you look bad is right, women just laugh at guys who walk around being arseholes.

They whole point of the guides telling AFCs to do that is to just add a few of the characteristics to what they do.
 

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Uh what?

The point of the bible isn't meant to make you think that your James Bond or some super hot rock star. It's to make you realize that you aren't a looser. It's supposed to remove your insecurities. If you hate yourself most people, especially women will be able to pick up on that and then they will want nothing to do with you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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yep - I agree wth most of the stuff this guy has said. He prity much owned you.

I think he easly realised you were repeating what other people said, and in his own way called you on it.

The whole idea is as he says to recognise who you are, and better yourself. Whther that be getting in shape at the gym, being less arrogant, having more patience etc all depends. The point is there are no main rules.

Dont go round thinking your the sh1t, because thats not good and people will dislike you for it. Instead have a balance between confidence, funny.

Be careful of this guy at work from no on, because he now has your @ss
 

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PectoralisMajor said:
yep - I agree wth most of the stuff this guy has said. He prity much owned you.

I think he easly realised you were repeating what other people said, and in his own way called you on it.

The whole idea is as he says to recognise who you are, and better yourself. Whther that be getting in shape at the gym, being less arrogant, having more patience etc all depends. The point is there are no main rules.

Dont go round thinking your the sh1t, because thats not good and people will dislike you for it. Instead have a balance between confidence, funny.

Be careful of this guy at work from no on, because he now has your @ss
LOL, agreed.

I don't think you can really claim to be a great catch unless you improve yourself to be that.
For instance, how silly would it sound to you if some Acne-infested nerd who spent his spare time playing D&D and watching porn between working part-time at McDonalds claimed to be a great catch. Sure confidence is good, but you need to improve yourself to back it up. You can't just decide your a 10 and a "Great Catch" and will become that or be perceived as such if you don't try to improve yourself. People will see right through that and think you're just lame. And Yes, it does matter what people think about you...to an extent at least.
 

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The guy sounds on the money. You would be wise to befriend and learn from him.
 

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Danger said:
Your friend and perhaps even yourself have some misunderstandings of what the "Great Catch" means.

The "Great Catch" is not

1) Someone who thinks they are perfect or always right.
2) Someone who puts others down to make themselves look better.
3) Someone who fakes confidence to make others look up to them.
4) Someone who lets the opinion of others make their decisions for them.

The "Great Catch" IS

1) Someone who knows they aren't perfect, and strives to improve their life continually.
2) Someone who makes their wants and needs the most important part of their life.
3) Someone who knows they have as much right to achieve their desires as anyone else does.
4) Someone who does not apologize for who they are or what they want.
5) Someone who takes charge and doesn't let the jealous people affect them.
6) Someone who inspires others to make the most of their own lives.
7) Someone who makes others feel good about themselves.
8) Someone who lives life to it’s fullest, there is no reset button.


On the road to DJ'ism you will encounter those who do not want you to improve, for various reasons. You will encounter many who call you evil for putting yourself first. You will encounter a TREMENDOUS amount of people who would make you believe you aren't good enough. These people will try to control you through guilt and shame. They will try to bring you to their level.

Why is that?

When someone pulls up to you driving their Ferrari, and you sit in your Corolla with your girlfriend, how do most feel? Insecure. The same rule applies to people. When people see someone who has a lot of talent, skill, ambition, etc,…, they get jealous, defensive, insecure. Remove these people from your life at all costs. They will poison you.

IF and ONLY IF you follow the rules above correctly, you will find out who to count among your friends and who not to count. Until you apply the rules above, you will not know for sure whether this person is a friend or not in his advice.

:up: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
 

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montybrown said:
So at work who apparently claims he has slept with over 500 women. Tells me that all the knowledge I know is bullsh!t. I told him how I am the great catch and how I am confident and he says "You tell yourself that, but you will never BECOME that" and I told him "Act as if you are and you shall become" and he says that how will I better myself when I think I am the sh!t right now how will I better myself when I don't open myself for improvement. I told him how if a girl says "Lets just be friends" then that's her way of rejecting you in a nice way. I told him about the most people that get rejected is the most that get laid and I'm not afraid to talk to women - yet he insists that

Last thing he mentioned was If you act "Confident" you never truly will be confident. I told him that I don't give a fvck what anyone else thinks and he says "You know THAT'S your problem. You are walking around thinking you are the sh!t not caring what anyone else thinks but yourself - makes YOU LOOK BAD. Because everyone else sees you as a poser. If you stop acting like something you're not then you have room to grow. But if you walk around thinking you are a 10 when you really are a 5... You will never truly be a 10 because you won't improve yourself. If you walk around thinking you are a 5, you CAN improve yourself."

Discuss.
BS, stuff like this works only if you know how to implement it. Just saying it surely won't get any results.

- You have to picture it
- You have to feel it
- You have to convey it

Every thought pattern has many behavior patterns based off that thought pattern.

For instance I ALWAYS Assume Attraction
- A chick looks at me shes attracted to me
- A chick is standing in my are she's attracted
- A chick laughs at something I say or do she's attracted
- A chick even notices my presence she's attracted to me
- If she is standing there talking to me she's attracted
- If were silent and she is still sitting there she's attracted

I always move around and sub-communciate that I know she is attracted to me and my playfulness is always framed around "Yea I'm messing with you but I already know you liked me from the start". I know she is attracted so I always put my arm around a chick right when I open. I escalate hardcore and I keep the set moving until she leaves because as far as I know she is attracted.

Delusional YES, does it work YES. These chicks can just tell I know there attracted due to the ****y ass smirk whenever I realize they're attracted.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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