Pursuing girl vs. acting disinterested: mutually exclusive?

[WhatdoyoumeanAIDS]

men,
Here's a question I've had for years. I've heard time after time from friends that are in relationships/married that they get hit on much more than when they were single. The number of people that have said this got me thinking.

As a single man, is it better to directly pursue the girl or just act completely disinterested?

I've heard arguments against both, IE for the former (you appeared too desperate by showing interest) or for the latter (you didn't even talk to her what were you expecting).


At least where I live, there are 5x more men than women due to employment trends, and so if you ignore her most likely she won't even know you exist.

 

[PapiChulo]

Not showing interest won't get you anywhere. The trick is not to communicate Too Much interest. You make clear that you might be interested and then pull back to see if she follows. Cat string theory. If there is nothing- act completely disinterested and be patient, don't waste your time on the uninterested ones

 

[Domo_Arigatoo]

The key is intent, be aggressive, and let her know that you want her, not too blatenly though. And don't jump through hoops for her, if she tries to **** test you and what not, Just ignore it or change the subject.

What it all comes down to is this though... what do YOU want to do?

 

[Jack Wealthy]

Pursue her like you pursue ten other girls and they all want you. Assume it.

 

[DonGorgon]

you can only play the disinterested game if she is very interested and actively pursuing you..

if you are pursuing her you have to pull back a little when she comes forward but not too much cause you will make her leave.