"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Procrastination (argh!)

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I am probably the greatest person I know. In fact I am pretty damn near perfect.

My only weakness is the fact that I have no sense of time and as a result, punctuality is not my strong suit. I am a Master Procrastinator!

Case in point, I was supposed to fly to Italy today, but I missed my flight. Wish there was someone I could blame, but its all my fault. Its not the first time it has happened either. I do sh!t like this all the time and it really pisses off my friends. Worst of all it makes me angry at myself.

How do I break this bad habit?

Anyone else deal with this problem?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thats whats called being a dumbass
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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holy **** man. I consider myself as one of the greatest procrastinaters that have grazed this planet, but I've never missed a flight. In fact I'm quite anal when it comes to appointments, but quite the oppiste when it comes to assignments, deadlines etc.
 
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Write yourself notes. Keep a sheet of paper on it with things that you need to remember or things that need to get done. Make sure to put deadlines on there too. Try to make yourself look at the piece of paper every day, so it engraves the dates into your memory. Or just try a date book.
 
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Your post may reveal more about you than you know.

One major reason why people procrastinate is the fear of failure. How can you not ever fail? Don't do anything.

Researchers have studied so called 'perfectionists' it is never attainable, therefore leads to major agnst through failiure or paralysis.

Embrace failure as a major component of success .
 
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