Pretty sure she's attracted, but not sure what my next move is

[teddy]

So me and this HB7.5 started flirting and eventually it led to some play wrestling and tickling. I should've made out with her at the very least, but there were a couple of factors working against that: 1. her apparent interest caught me by surprise and 2. her brother was in the same room and I didn't have the presence to lead her to another room because I was enjoying the present moment too much.

Now looking back, I definitely should have kissed her. However, I haven't heard from her since then; it's been 2 weeks. Usually I'll see her around once a month or so at various functions/parties/gatherings.

I've known this girl for a while now and each time we run into each other, there's some escalation.

I'm kind of wondering whether to text her to meet up or not. The reason I'm hesitant is that so far I've been doing well with getting her to chase/invest. I don't want to change the dynamic by suddenly chasing. I don't know when I'll see her again, but I'm thinking that next time I see her, make a kiss the goal.

I mean, her attraction won't disappear by then would it? Just exhibit some patience?

 

[VikingKing]

No.

Ask her out--now. I would text her right now.

"I'd like you to join me for a drink or two tomorrow night at 8 ______(place) on ____street."

I don't subscribe AT ALL to the mentality that it's weak to chase. You are supposed to be the chaser. Doesn't mean you're weak. You CAN be strong and chase.

Not sure how old you guys are. But if you're 21 or older, and I were you, I would not only invite her for a drink or two, I would then tell her (not ask...tell) what time you'll be swinging by to pick her up (after she accepts the date invite of course). If she has her own place, she'll probably invite you in when you go to drop her off. That's her cue that she wants you to fvuck her.

This sounds like a highly interested chick so this is a deal you should try to finish.

Dont be afraid to put yourself out there. Just do what espi says. It will either work or it wont. You have to put forth effort.

 

[VladPatton]

Holy fück, man. Unless she's blowin up your phone to meet up with you at all ours of the day (or night), she ain't chasing jack shıt! How do you know she's not getting railed by some dude right now?? You don't, neither of us do.

You gotta shıt or get off the pot. And I don't mean marijuana. Ask her out ASAP and see where she stands, or play tickle games for the rest of your life with her while some other dude is playing Tickle The Tonsils with her for real.

Just ask.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Yeah man do what Espi says ask her out..

The reason he tells you to do that is because she is already showing interest by playing around with you physically. Now it's your turn to the plate. If she likes you she is already trying to see how brave/bold you are. If you do nothing most likely she is going to take it as a rejection, not as you just playing it cool. Then she'll LJBF you because you are too timid.

Remember women hold animosity against timid men. They will consider you utterly worthless and hate you for it out of disappointment.

Ask her out like he says, show her a great time and go for that kiss. Remember the escalation ladder.

Go fourth and splack my boy!!!

 

[SgtSplacker]

Holy fück, man. Unless she's blowin up your phone to meet up with you at all ours of the day (or night), she ain't chasing jack shıt! How do you know she's not getting railed by some dude right now?? You don't, neither of us do.

You gotta shıt or get off the pot. And I don't mean marijuana. Ask her out ASAP and see where she stands, or play tickle games for the rest of your life with her while some other dude is playing Tickle The Tonsils with her for real.

Just ask.

Wait what?

You gotta shıt or get off the pot.

The pot reference is for a chamber pot. People used to poop in literal pots before sewage was invented. So you had to go or get off the pot to make it available to others.

Sorry man just a little OCD there, don't want you going around with the wrong meaning of these sayings because yeah this is important stuff lol.

 

[teddy]

Yeah man do what Espi says ask her out..

The reason he tells you to do that is because she is already showing interest by playing around with you physically. Now it's your turn to the plate. If she likes you she is already trying to see how brave/bold you are. If you do nothing most likely she is going to take it as a rejection, not as you just playing it cool. Then she'll LJBF you because you are too timid.

Remember women hold animosity against timid men. They will consider you utterly worthless and hate you for it out of disappointment.

Ask her out like he says, show her a great time and go for that kiss. Remember the escalation ladder.

Go fourth and splack my boy!!!

Wait...so did I mess up by not kissing her? Sh!t, I thought I was doing pretty good escalating physically.

 

[teddy]

Holy fück, man. Unless she's blowin up your phone to meet up with you at all ours of the day (or night), she ain't chasing jack shıt! How do you know she's not getting railed by some dude right now?? You don't, neither of us do.

You gotta shıt or get off the pot. And I don't mean marijuana. Ask her out ASAP and see where she stands, or play tickle games for the rest of your life with her while some other dude is playing Tickle The Tonsils with her for real.

Just ask.

I meant that in person she "chases". Meaning, I lay back, play it cool, she ends up initiating and all that.

You're right, I have no idea if she's getting railed by someone right now. For some reason, that's sapping my confidence.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Wait...so did I mess up by not kissing her? Sh!t, I thought I was doing pretty good escalating physically.

Can't say whether you messed up or not. But one thing for sure you need to take the initiative on these things. Just keep things natural and on target!

 

[Atom Smasher]

Men today tend to be TENTATIVE because they are afraid to find out for sure what they fear... that she might not be interested.

Once we get rid of that tentativeness, a whole new world opens up to us. Think about waiting to hear about test results from the doctor. You're a nervous wreck for a week. Then the doctor calls and it is bad news, that you have something that needs to be addressed, and you are actually relieved. You are relieved because now you know where you stand. The situation is no longer tentative and ethereal but is now a known quantity that you can handle.

Men, get the tentative factor out of ALL of your dealings in life. Make your move, ask her out, obtain CERTAINTY.

Women love and thrive on uncertainty. Men hate it and it tends to eat them from within. Take care of business and obtain answers to every challenge in life, to everything in life that you are concerned about.

Learn to hate the word, "tentative" and instead embrace the phrase, "I'm going to take care of business." Positive action that clarifies reality is what makes us powerful.

 

[teddy]

Women love and thrive on uncertainty.

But isn't this the reason why to introduce uncertainty in the first place? Why you should keep your feelings towards them in a shroud? To draw them in with intrigue and mystery?

 

[SgtSplacker]

But isn't this the reason why to introduce uncertainty in the first place? Why you should keep your feelings towards them in a shroud? To draw them in with intrigue and mystery?

Hold your horses champ, nobodys telling you not to be mysterious.

If you show interest by actions it still leaves mystery.

By asking her out you are basically telling her that you like her.

By kissing her you are basically telling her you like her.

So there is no need to discuss the matter further. Actions speak louder than words. Thats it man, you're done.

You never want to sit there in front of a girl and spill your heart out to her.

You never want to tell her how you feel about her.

But you continue to show interest by being interested and dedicating time and resources to her.

If a woman asks you how you feel about her she is looking for validation. In some cases just giving her this will make things go cold. She must never be sure of your relationship. If this ever happens she will begin to lose interest. She must never be able to realize just how much you like her. The way women use sex against us, use confirmation of your feelings against her.

 

[teddy]

Done. She's coming to my place. She threw in some "!" and a " ", so I assume there's some excitement there.