Premature Ejaculation issue

[Tosan]

Heres my story
I've been having sex with my girlfriend for little under a year. I used to be able to last for more than a half hour easily i never had issues cvmming too soon until recently. For the last month i have been cvmming sooner and sooner until now where i cant even last 30 seconds :cheer:. I try stopping and continuing foreplay till my excitement drops, changing positons and squeezing the tip but as soon as i put it back in i cvm. I do kegels, i can always tell when i m getting close. Its not an anxiety issue or over excitment issue we've been having normal sex for months. Any ideas on how i can solve this?

 

[wolf116]

Are you fit and healthy?

 

[Tosan]

yeah i work out 4 times a week

 

[WC2]

It's most likely mental.

When you sex up a woman (or your girlfriend) do you feel like you're in control? Do you feel as if there is no other man who could bring her to orgasm like you?

If the answer is no, then there is your problem. No matter your short comings physically, your mind has a funny way of tricking your body into doing certain things.

You've obviously been thinking about this a lot, so your mind is telling your body to expect to last 30 seconds. Catch my drift?

It's the same concept as guys who can't get it up because they're nervous; their mind tells them they can't get it up, so why try?

As far as kegels are concerned, they won't help you last much longer. Reverse kegels are what ultimately will help you last longer. Getting in sync with your breathing also helps a lot too.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Tosan,
Yes a problem,try the desensitising cream that women put on their nipples when feeding babies,it will help,as might a condom....keep the Kegals up they will help,solve problems like Pythagorus' theorem in your head.....anyway,rest assured as you get older the problem will improve...good luck.

 

[Drewskie]

It's most likely mental.

When you sex up a woman (or your girlfriend) do you feel like you're in control? Do you feel as if there is no other man who could bring her to orgasm like you?

If the answer is no, then there is your problem. No matter your short comings physically, your mind has a funny way of tricking your body into doing certain things.

You've obviously been thinking about this a lot, so your mind is telling your body to expect to last 30 seconds. Catch my drift?

It's the same concept as guys who can't get it up because they're nervous; their mind tells them they can't get it up, so why try?

As far as kegels are concerned, they won't help you last much longer. Reverse kegels are what ultimately will help you last longer. Getting in sync with your breathing also helps a lot too.

Excellent advice. Get it out of your head that you're a two pump chump. Most likely now that you are more comfortable with her, you are ultra-relzaxed and come really quick because of it. The only thing I know that works, is you can either jerk-off before you see her, or just have sex once then recoup and go at it again. The second you will always last longer. I once tried the orajel trick, it worked to numb my d!ck, but backfired when she domed me up and her lips got numb.....