I am going into 9th grade right now I am almost 15 and during all of middle school I was what you would consider "popular." But during the end of 8th grade I kinda got booted from the circle, not to sure why but I got in a fight with a (once) friend and that kinda ended it. After that they all made fun of me alot and now for the past few months they really haven't bothered me but I am wondering if there is anything extra I could do to get back in the clique.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Everything changes in Highschool. MS cliques break up. People who used to be your best friends will become strangers to you in a matter of months. There are going to be A lot more people for you to meet in highschool. I wasted my 9th grade year being a loner because I had no ****ing clue what was going on. I had no friends. Just make some new friends, you will clearly meet cooler and better people then who you used to know in MS.
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This is only the beginning, wait until you get to college. In the past 3 years I've been a part of 4 different cliques and crews (almost all of them besides 1 is very well known not only in the city I live in, but across 5 to 10 cities stretching from LA to Orange County), I've had 3 guys that I've considered my "best friend" and now just are my friends, and now I'm in a fraternity meeting chicks more than ever not really having that "go to" friend that you hang out with every day.
Seems like kids from high school feel like they need to be a part of something, their own group. Guess I can't blame them; Mystery's theory is that we haven't grown out of the social programming that our ancestors thousands of years ago have adapted to where we needed to stick together in big numbers to survive.
Seems like kids from high school feel like they need to be a part of something, their own group. Guess I can't blame them; Mystery's theory is that we haven't grown out of the social programming that our ancestors thousands of years ago have adapted to where we needed to stick together in big numbers to survive.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You're going into 9th grade, so it may seem like a big deal to get back into that group. Honestly, it's not as big of a deal as you think.
You're going into HIGH SCHOOL. The cliques you knew in middle school? Most of them may even cease to exist. why?
In middle school, you were in the "popular" clique. The middle school soceity was separated into them. You have the jocks, preps, scene kids, outcasts, band geeks, populars, and etc. You just have that tight circle of friends within your clique.
In high school, things will change bro. The idea of "cliques" may even cease to exist. Now, I don't know what your high school is like, but chances are you won't even see your old clique-mates as often as you have seen them in middle school. As you enter your classes for the first time, you will see many many unfamiliar faces. These faces will be a crowd of sophomores, juniors, seniors, and other freshman you may not know. So, even if you were still in that popular middle school clique, it may not even mean anything once you're in high school.
So bottom line man. Don't fret. Go into high school confident in yourself and you'll make lots of friends. You'll find your little niche in the massive seas of students. Your old middle school cliques won't matter. There will be a sea of new people and new opportunities for you. Good luck.
Watchin yo back.
-Big Brother.
You're going into HIGH SCHOOL. The cliques you knew in middle school? Most of them may even cease to exist. why?
In middle school, you were in the "popular" clique. The middle school soceity was separated into them. You have the jocks, preps, scene kids, outcasts, band geeks, populars, and etc. You just have that tight circle of friends within your clique.
In high school, things will change bro. The idea of "cliques" may even cease to exist. Now, I don't know what your high school is like, but chances are you won't even see your old clique-mates as often as you have seen them in middle school. As you enter your classes for the first time, you will see many many unfamiliar faces. These faces will be a crowd of sophomores, juniors, seniors, and other freshman you may not know. So, even if you were still in that popular middle school clique, it may not even mean anything once you're in high school.
So bottom line man. Don't fret. Go into high school confident in yourself and you'll make lots of friends. You'll find your little niche in the massive seas of students. Your old middle school cliques won't matter. There will be a sea of new people and new opportunities for you. Good luck.
Watchin yo back.
-Big Brother.