"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Poor success in NYC on OLD

Namaste

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Hey,

I've signed up for all the OLD sites in the NYC area and I'm having a terrible experience and a huge blow to the ego. There are way more women in NYC than men and way more 7s-8s here but I'm hardly getting any matches. Here's my summary.

I'm only attracting 3's and 4's who are overweight or druggies of some sort. The best success I had was on POF and that site is covered with extreme low quality girls who I don't want to sleep with. And I don't want to seem fu*ked up or come across as arrogant but I'm not interested in dating these kinds of girls.

Bumble - I sometimes get a match a day and some times not at all but they never make the first move when it happens. So it disappears.

Tinder - Hardly any matches, I even tried Tinder boost (which helps you stay at the top of the list in the city for 30 minutes) and I only got 4 matches out of this on a Friday night. In a city like this, this is poor. I created my account three days ago and have a total of 6 matches who are overweight unattractive low quality POF like girls. I'm not interested in these girls at all.

OkCupid - Hardly anyone remotely interested. OkCupid is by far the worst experience.

POF - Attracting low quality girls who are druggies, overweight, who flake, end up being crazy or I end up not messaging back.

I don't want to be f**ked up but I don't want to sleep with low quality girls. This entire OLD experience has been a huge blow to the ego and maybe I thought too high of myself.

But in a singles paradise like this city, it's been hard to online date. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. My bio are short but humorous. I have pictures of myself (which I guess theres the problem idk) and my game is very smooth. I have no problem getting numbers and I'm not very picky when it comes to these things but I'm not going to settle for girls who look like they have issues.

Anyone else have issues with these OLD sites especially in the NYC area? I should be getting tons of matches from locals and tourist but hardly anything at all.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ThisNThat

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Plenty of Fish = Plenty of Whales. I don't mind a woman with some meat on her bones, but we're talking about even 20-something young ladies gaining fat in areas they shouldn't be in. I mean, "Jabba-the-hutt" fat.

Not talking thick, not talking just "chubby" but we're talking about women who just shove **** in their face all day long while at the office and inhales those "free" donuts in the morning that sit in the breakrooms.
 

skinnyguy

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Don't let the fact that there are more women out there fool you.

Women in NYC are extremely picky. The tall investment bankers are sleeping with 80% of the hot women. If you're an average guy with an average job get out of NYC. It's only good if you're very attractive and/or a millionaire.

With Tinder, the hot girls are gonna have tons of options. They will be able to choose a number of guys who are better than you are.
 

Urbanyst

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How old are you?

You won't thrive in the NYC market unless you're at least 27-28 and making good MONEY. Once you're over 30 this market is amazing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Solomon

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B.S about you having to be the super duper fly wall street guy In NYC
. Snowplownan thrived in NYC guy was flat broke banging model chicks, he was so successful he was able to start a business teaching guys life hacking skills
NYC is a different beast, the women there "just wanna have fun"
If you are able to exude the fun guy, the hot guy, the mysterious guy or some sort of a "Niche" you will flourish in NYC
if you're not doing well online time to hit the field or get the services of @Amante Silvestre he's legit heh
 
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