You could do one of two things. One, you could just ignore behaviors you don't like and reenforce behaviors that you do like. When she is doing things you don't like, go do something that you enjoy. If she gives you hell, this is a problem. When she does things you DO like, show her a sign of affection or give her a ginger or flirtatious touch to reassure her she is desirable to you. If she gives you hell for THIS---it is a problem. You should be able to support her or have some time away from her without her blaming YOU for it. If you can't, IMHO the relationship is on borrowed time.
Two, you can just make an extra effort to be as relaxed as possible no matter how chaotic she gets and know that it will pass. Only you can be the judge on how much is too much to handle. If it's too much to handle more than you get enjoyment in the good days, I think you know what to do. In either case, I'm unfortunately in agreement with CaptFinnbad. I've never been able to sustain a mutually loving and healthy relationship with a woman claiming any sort of condition that exacerbates targeted behaviors or makes them worse. Even worse yet is when she inserts it as a matter of fact during a rant.... ie "You know I have ____, be patient! This is all part of it!" that's NEVER a good sign and IMHO no good can come from a relationship when someone points to something outside themselves for the cause of their reaction to reality.
And yes. As you well know, reality sucks a LOT of the time. Chin up.
