Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Please help daughter found out about mom

timmylivingalie

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Please help I met this chic the other day we had instant attraction. We talked for a little and I asked her on a date and she quickly agreed. I then left her wanting more, about hour later she even finds me and comes up talking everything going real good at this point. I give a time restraint and leave. Well about an hour later I get a text from her saying that she had just found out about me and her mom. I dated her mom some several years ago. So she cancelled our date, Please give me some advice on the next move. I really want this girl and dont want to give up.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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pdx1138

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whoa! opportunity!!

Have them both out for drinks....mother/daughter fun....

kidding....

If she got thrown off by that you're not likely to get her to change her mind.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Charge it to the game. Don't put her on a pedestal which you are clearly doing.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm in the Mood

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Smooth. By the way, a true man knows when to give up and let go in spite of his emotions.
 

Robert28

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if you take anything away from this it should be that women talk. about every fvcking thing. there are no secrets between them. a guy wont talk much about a girl hes going on a date with, is dating, wants to date, etc. a woman however will tell EVERYONE she knows about every little detail. its hard to cover your tracks with women because of their big mouths.
 

timmylivingalie

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I probaly really screwed up I sent her a text saying pleaase reconsider and no reply.
 

jafyk

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Well, you were with her mom years ago. Long time past. So, contact her and ask to talk about it and find out why she's upset. If she declines then walk away. She's not the last girl on earth sheesh!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alex DeLarge

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that would rule to fvck a mom and daughter haha!
 

Jaylan

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dude give it up. Its never happening. Think about this...would you date a girl who dated and possibly fvucked your father?

Its weird and creepy. End of story.

Dont pester her and become the creepy older guy who slept with her mom. Just leave it.
 

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She is now texting me again but she is still holding that against me. There has got to be a way around this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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