"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mystery said that you have to wait approximately 7 hours before most girls give you the OK for sex. ( From: The Game and Mystery Method )
I don't know whether this is true or not.

I have to admit until recently I was an AFC without a clue.
Now I am on my way to becoming a more confident person who actually gets dates.

This forum talks about techniques, getting the digits, and forms of self confidence but I haven't seen anything about the actual date.
Anyway, the question of this thread is: "What are a bunch of good non-AFC places to go to on a date with a girl/woman?"
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I like to go play pool. It's usually a laid back atmosphere; you can use the game as an excuse to escalate physically without it being awkward; it's inexpensive; and finally because it's fun. But think about what you (and possibly her) find fun, then do that.
 

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What exactly is an AFC place to take a girl? :confused:

Good places to take girls: Coffee shops, restaurants, pool halls, bowling alleys, art museums (making fun of the art is golden for 99% of girls), parks, movie theaters etc. All you have to determine is when these locations are good and when they're too much... Use the cheap locations for first dates and the more expensive/romantic stuff for later dates. The only places I'd steer clear of at least in the first couple months are bars and clubs where other guys may hit on your date.
 

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yea thats what i do i like to keep it cheap in the beginning like a tea place..somewhere close by my house so we can then go to my room for a cheap make out session
 

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I think the most important thing for a day 2 is to build comfort. Most of the time, you'll meet a girl in a bar or club and you'll get her number, she'll barely know her and before you know it, she'll have a date with you.

What you need to do is build MORE comfort with her before you can extract. if you can pull the same night, I'd almost recommend that just because her buying temperature is going to be a lot higher than that of a day 2.

Day 2's are definitely more comfort game just because you probably won't be in a party atmosphere and there won't be any alcohol involved.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The sole purpose of a day 2 is to build comfort.

You've probably just met her at a bar or club and you guys were probably drunk when you met too.

The day 2 is completely different from the initial encounter at the bar. Personally I like to invite the girl over for dinner at my place because it prevents the need of extracting and cooking is a huge DHV. Plus she can bring the wine and there you go, she's tipsy at your place.

I'd recommend something low investment for the first day 2, something in a public place. Remember, you want to give the impression that you're a super busy guy, so you're already out doing something and you're just inviting her to tag along.

-Kevin
 

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mothballs said:
What exactly is an AFC place to take a girl? :confused:

Good places to take girls: Coffee shops, restaurants, pool halls, bowling alleys, art museums (making fun of the art is golden for 99% of girls), parks, movie theaters etc. All you have to determine is when these locations are good and when they're too much... Use the cheap locations for first dates and the more expensive/romantic stuff for later dates. The only places I'd steer clear of at least in the first couple months are bars and clubs where other guys may hit on your date.
I always prided myself on being 'unique' in my crowd for even thinking on museums/art galleries, but to make fun of art. I never thought of it, it would have struck me being a philistine, but women as an art form > static art.
 

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I always prided myself on being 'unique' in my crowd for even thinking on museums/art galleries, but to make fun of art. I never thought of it, it would have struck me being a philistine, but women as an art form > static art.
I'm not talking about being crass and putting down art in general and acting like a completely cultureless ass. I'm just talking about trying to come up with a funny observation with some of the strange peices, of which there always are some.

If you see a particularly odd piece and the description, if it's available totally doesn't match the rest of the exhibit... you have a golden opportunity to get her to laugh when you encounter other peices... start guessing what it represents with symbolism from those most extreme examples you've seen... I did this recently at an aboriginal painting exhibit... there were circles all over the paintings, often representing campfires or people, but one time one of the circles was supposed to be a testicle which was good enough for a laugh right then, but I also asked her the next time we saw a circle it was a testicle or what? This also got some laughter out of her.

Another exhibit on another floor of the museum was all about female artists and their work... one of the rooms had a lifesize model of a naked woman sitting on a chair in the middle. I didn't look straight at it the whole time we were in there and when we started to leave the room I whispered to her "this is just an excercise on seeing how long you can go without looking at the naked woman in the middle of the room".

I did this a few times, but with most of the art I just admired the artist's work. I will say that I lucked out that day with some of the sexual themes in the paintings, it was a great way to show her I was perfectly comfortable with sexuality.
 

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I don't drive yet- I'm saving up for a "crash" driving course, so I run absoultely everywhere if it's less that 12 miles.

Anyway, there's a river right by my house. How do you think a walk along it, followed by a small picnic with some weak-ish drink. Some wine and some ale for me- I'm underage for another 108 days mind you, so I'll get it from work :yes: .

Then, if it's late, take her home; if it's not too late then back to mine to watch a film? Comedy or horror?

I'll be driving within 8 weeks if I can avoid spending more money than paying off my £300 debt and gym membership.:moon:
 

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Mystery saying that you have to wait approx. 7 hours before most girls give you the OK for sex is bull crap and seems way too long of a time to be spending with someone. It really depends on how horny the girl is and the skill of your game. I've layed one girl within two hours of meeting her for the first time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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mothballs said:
I'm not talking about being crass and putting down art in general and acting like a completely cultureless ass. I'm just talking about trying to come up with a funny observation with some of the strange peices, of which there always are some.

If you see a particularly odd piece and the description, if it's available totally doesn't match the rest of the exhibit... you have a golden opportunity to get her to laugh when you encounter other peices... start guessing what it represents with symbolism from those most extreme examples you've seen... I did this recently at an aboriginal painting exhibit... there were circles all over the paintings, often representing campfires or people, but one time one of the circles was supposed to be a testicle which was good enough for a laugh right then, but I also asked her the next time we saw a circle it was a testicle or what? This also got some laughter out of her.

Another exhibit on another floor of the museum was all about female artists and their work... one of the rooms had a lifesize model of a naked woman sitting on a chair in the middle. I didn't look straight at it the whole time we were in there and when we started to leave the room I whispered to her "this is just an excercise on seeing how long you can go without looking at the naked woman in the middle of the room".

I did this a few times, but with most of the art I just admired the artist's work. I will say that I lucked out that day with some of the sexual themes in the paintings, it was a great way to show her I was perfectly comfortable with sexuality.
I know, I didn't mean being crass either.
 
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