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Picking your battles during period time

Thorninmyside

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Been seeing a girl for six months and it's been exclusive for the last two. I'm 40 and she's 32. She's a quality girl, sex is great and often, and she's a smart and funny woman. Gaming her was fun and the game goes on. I stay on my toes and try not to beta backslide.

The only time we have issues is during rag time. For three or four days she's more irritable and short tempered than I'm used to. I get it. It's a girl thing and I take that into consideration, but when I'm not interested in walking on eggshells, I'll keep busy and maybe back off contact a little, but then she'll call me out on that and say I'm ignoring her. It's like she'll then stir to get a reaction.

First rule of rag time is not to mention rag time, but I don't want to be a ***** and I don't want to tolerate bad behaviour. So where is the line between that and the nature of pms?
 

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Thorninmyside said:
First rule of rag time is not to mention rag time, but I don't want to be a ***** and I don't want to tolerate bad behaviour. So where is the line between that and the nature of pms?
The second rule of rag time is that it's mostly bullsh!t. Do you think she gives her boss attitude when she's on the rag? Or do you think she's b!tching at her girl friends or some hot guy at work that she has a crush on?

The is nothing magical about PMS. Sure, women can become more irritable during that time of the month but people get irritated for all sorts of reasons and are usually expected to be able to control their emotions. Same with PMS. Just because she's on the rag doesn't mean she gets a green light to act in a sh!tty and disrespectful manner. She can, and will, control her "PMS rage" if required.
 
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