Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Picked up my son from Day Care yesterday...

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...and he was sitting by himself, while other kids were playing just a few feet away. It kinda broke my heart to see it. He told me he was being punished for doing something, which he didn't say what for but... my son is usually around a lot of kids his age, as he has a lot of family.

My question is... is there anything I can do to make HIM more "popular" at day care? He's a great looking kid, and is very smart, and I just don't want to see him sitting by himself on a playground full of kids.

I was thinking about bringing in ice cream, and root beer for him, and his classmates one day. I love him hella lot, and just want him to have a healthy childhood, and be accepted by other kids.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The best thing you can do for him is to love on him as much as possible. Catching a kid doing something right is MORE important than catching him doing something wrong. Praise works wonders for a kid, especially when an adult they look up to goes ape sh!t crazy about something cool they did. Even if it's just 'kid stuff', playing it up will make an impression. Treats are occasionally nice gestures, but the more you accept him as a "little man" the more he'll pick up on how to deal with other kids. Give him time too. It might have just been a bad day for him.

A big mistake most parents make is thinking that their children ought to think in abstracts as they do. They haven't developed this in pre-school and it doesn't even fully develop until late adolescence, so patience is essential. This means they think in the now, not the yesterday or tomorrow. Social skills are abstract skills so model them for him as often as possible and they'll sink in.
 
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i can not tell you how many times i have come into the daycare and saw one of my little ones sitting in time out for something they had done.
it is just something that you can never go in expecting to see.

it doesn't mean that your child isn't liked or isn't popular... it means they got in trouble.

something you could try, is when you pick him up and he isn't in trouble...reward him. go right up and say hello to your little man and give him a hug or a high five and ask him how his day was. talk the whole way out of the daycare.. what was for lunch? what did you learn today? who did you play with today? did you guys get to go outside?
my kids eat it up when i ask them all about their day.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think that your kid getting in trouble and being forced to sit out, early in life is a good thing. Its means he's likely an alpha and was doing something social and ******dly that AFC society doesn't condone.

He was likely being overly loud & obnoxious.
 
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