Pick One Channel of Communication

[bigneil]

When you start to have people chase you it makes it surprisingly clear which things are most annoying.

One such example is having someone contact you via multiple channels simultaneously. For example: emailing AND texting AND leaving voice mail - all without a reply. Don't do this. Even if you are in a relationship. It makes people feel surrounded when they might just need space.

Just pick one form of contact. Then, apply the "no double-texting/calling" rule. Contact them once and wait until they reply - even if it's days or weeks.

 

[garruk]

as much as i break this rule... i kind of like it.

im wondering if it might be a little overanalyzing though. if a girl likes you... i think she'd be glad to hear from you as often as possible.

 

[bigneil]

if a girl likes you... i think she'd be glad to hear from you as often as possible.

The opposite is more true. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

She will contact you if she likes you. Then, it should be reply-only mode. No initiation except to ask for dates in reply to her contacting you.

 

[garruk]

for the most part i think youre right but ive met some girls who RARELY contact guys first.

in fact, ive had girlfriends who almost never initiate conversation first because they dont want to appear needy and whatever.

 

[bigneil]

garruk, to clarify: a man still must initiate on the first contact. Assuming she replies, from that point on he is replying to her.