"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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philosophy on life

high desert dj

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events

what ever happens happens.
it happens to happen for the purpose of happenning.
the highest purpose for the happening is to happen.
without happenning , it didnt happen.
how about that.

perception
we percieve what happens, and we dont percieve what doesnt happen.
but in percieving what we percieve our perception of what we percieved
can be percieved by us.
but if what we percieve is what we think we percieved, did we really percieve
what we percieved.and if what we percieved was percieved by others did they perceieve what we percieved.
your opinion of what you percieved is your opinion of what you percieved unless
you shared your opinion to others then it becomes your shared opinion of what you percieved.


Death
it sucks.


Baseball
its a game


fun
its fun

music
the motion of air particles in rhythmic waves for the pleasure of our ears,soul,
body
music is played so that there could be music.(this is deep)
unplayed music cannot be heard.(this has been scientifically proven by shoving
a pencil up a rats ass and having him go through a maze and asking him if he
could hear the music that was not being played.the fact that he squeeled is
proof that he was angry at not hearing the music)
music is played by musicians.
and cd players, mp3 players,tape players etc.


games
games are played
in order to have a game you need bleachers.
and hot dog stands.
you cant have hot dog stands without without ketchup containers.
therefore in order to have a game you need ketchup containers.
then the game is played.
then the game is over,or it could be rained delayed or something.
or go into overtime.
then you have a weiner i mean winner.
and a loser.
because he won the game he is considered the winner.
then he celebrates.


art
art is a way of communicating your point of view to the world.
or it is something done just for the hell of it.
or it could be an accident that looks cool so you claim it and say it was art.
an artist creates art because he is an artist.
if he were an enginist he would create engines.
but he is not so he sticks to art.
when an artist creates art he is creating with his inner most creative energy, or
not.
maybe he is just high.
people view art.
in viewing art people tend to look at it.
when not viewing art people tend to be doing something else.
(more research needs to be done on this.we will need more rats)


life is serious
in life if you screw up then your screwed up.
if you joke then your a joke.
if you get serious then you seriously need help.
if you like to play then you get played.
life is serious
if you die then your dead.
it hurts when you get hurt.
if you get in an accident and live then you accidently lived.
if you lose your a loser.
oh yeah life is serious.
if you burn your toast then your toast is burnt.



communication
communication is like.....talking.
when you say something people hear you.
when you dont say something they dont hear you.
every once in a while people hear what you dont say.
and dont hear what you say.

and sometimes you think you said what you said but really said
something else.but the person heard what you really said and thought he
heard what you thought you said.
example:you thought "lets go to the beach", but said "lets get ice cream".
he heard "lets get ice cream".but thought you said"lets go to the beach".
Now thats communication!
this example was done by observing rats.these rats were spared the pencil shoving
because we were running out of pencils to chew on, due to anxiety of finding
out the answers to these highly important subjects, and noone wants to
chew on a pencil that was used for testing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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that last paragraph makes no sense:confused:

I'm no good at philosophy, i prefer to follow trancendentalist intuition rather than reason.....it has always worked better for me, I can't explain it.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Let's all chant....

:yawn: OOOOhhhhhhMMMMMMMMmm:yawn:
 

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I AM philosophizing with you...just that i do it in my head. You said that people sometimes hear what you don't say, so i'm pretty sure you're hearing me philosophizing now!
 

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I'm glad you were joking, becasue that junk was terrible.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by thefonz
I'm no good at philosophy, i prefer to follow trancendentalist intuition rather than reason....
Are you serious??
 

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Philosophy from Monty Python:
Half a bee, philosophically, must ex post facto, half not be.

Some more philosophical musings (I have no idea who first stated these "truths"):
You should walk a mile in a man's shoes before you criticize him. That way, when you criticize him, you'll be a mile away, and you'll have his shoes.

The road to enlightenment is long and difficult, so pack some snacks and bring a magazine.

Life is short, so eat dessert first.

Life is too important to be taken seriously.
 
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