Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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People using dating sites to make friends?

ThisNThat

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This must be an OK Cupid thing, but I had come across a woman that got my attention because she said she in her profile was going to the same concert event that I was.

Turns out she said she's engaged (even shows her fiance' in some of her pics) but is using the site to make friends. She's not polyamorous, nor looking for a three-some or something on the side, but is legitimately looking to make friends.

I asked her about this, and in fact, she's actually made non-romantic friends this way. I suggested trying Meetup.com, but she said where she lives...they tend to dry up or she doesn't really "gel" (same mind-set) of the group.

I dunno, isn't there just something a little off about people who use dating sites to make just friends, isn't there? As if they've exhausted all options of meeting people the traditional way?

Personally, I think there's something rather beta about her fiance' even letting he do this.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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