"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pay or not pay for dinner date

GynecologyEnthusiast

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For a first date, if I ask, I really don't think paying is a big problem. In fact, the way to handle it is to pay like you crap out hundred dollar bills every night. That way you aren't supplicating because you don't even give a crap.

This is, of course, much easier when you are a bit older and have attained a six-figure salary and don't have to act that way.

Many of the posters here are younger and still impoverished from college and really need that eight bucks.

The girl always offers to pay and I just tell her "don't worry about it." Then they usually pay for dessert or coffee later.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Problem is it is very difficult to call out who is after a free meal and who might genuinely be interested- and act is an act is an act.
 

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For a first date, if I ask, I really don't think paying is a big problem. In fact, the way to handle it is to pay like you crap out hundred dollar bills every night. That way you aren't supplicating because you don't even give a crap.

This is, of course, much easier when you are a bit older and have attained a six-figure salary and don't have to act that way.

I agree 110% with GE on this one. Your economic situation (and hers) does matter.

Before I came back to school, I was making really good money where I was working so I could care less about $20 here, $50 there. So I really didn't feel as if I was supplicating by payng because I genuinely didn't give a sh*t. Also, I often dated girls that were still in college and were strapped for cash.

Now though, I'm back in school and no longer rolling in the dough. I make this clear to the girls I date (most of whom ARE working full time) so they understand that I'm not flipping the bill all the time. If anything they should be paying more often than I do (wishful thinking).
 
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Pressing the blue button..
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