Patterns

[Crazy Asian]

I'm beginning to see patterns in my interactions with girls.
Like I can predict what's coming next based on how she is acting right now.

What are some red flags and green flags that you guys have noticed.
Some things for me are, if you ask her to hang and she asks if anyone else is coming, it's a red flag.
Or something like when you guys text, any little thing that she says that might anger you, she says sorry for and makers sure ur happy. that would be a green flag.
Something that is reasonably constant.
Any ideas?

 

[horaholic]

Dont read too much into that. Red flags are just cues that you might want to run. Not like your example. A red flag example would be "My last boyfriend didnt spend enough time with me. I think a couple should be together for hours every single day, and should talk on the phone for hours every single night. He used to get mad at me for 'popping' by his house without calling." Thats a red flag, meaning "warning, crazy stalker chick."

Or something like when you guys text, any little thing that she says that might anger you, she says sorry for and makers sure ur happy. that would be a green flag.

Some chicks are naturally submissive. That may or may not be a good thing.

There is no such thing as a green flag, BTW.

use your observation.

 

[COD]

well IOI's are a type of green flag, red flags are key words or actions in a persons behavior to watch for. If you become preoccupied with listening for red flags and question everything, you will transform into the "undateable" and eventually undesirable.

Red flags are a good source of Intel to avoid possibility of making huge mistakes down the road. They can save you time and heartache in any future endevor.

There are tons of red flags in a relationship pertaining to cheating, I think the key is making a mental list of a persons speech patterns, past behavior, vocabruary to circumvent future failure.

some examples:

LOOKING AT WATCH periodically-low interest levels.

ASKING FOR YOUR NUMBER INSTEAD OF VOLUNTERING HERS

HESITATION-when texting, IM's, calling back, responding to emails, meeting, etc

EXCUSES-I have to work, I have to study, not sure what I am doing yet, I'll let you know, I will call you back, I have the kids, something came up, etc

ACTIONS-true measure of a persons desirability is if they follow through with what they promised. Actions always speak volumes about a person character.

RESPONSES-one word answers, turn of the cheek when you go for the kiss, they let go first when you give them a hug, watch their body language.

 

[horaholic]

Those are IOD's, not red flags. And IOI's are not green flags, they're just ioi's.

In the seduction community, red flags are always referring to an action or statement from the woman that indicates a possibility of unworthiness, trouble, or crazy. There has never been a reference to a green flag.

IOI's might be considered a green LIGHT, and a chick telling you "no," might be a red LIGHT, but the flag analogy is not used in these circumstances.

Wow, am I being anal here? lol.