"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pathetic problem i know......

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My problem is that I was really good friends with a girl, almost best friends, and I kind of got the impression that she liked me too. We got really close and I know that she did like me in that way, and I asked her out, she said yes, but then two days later said no, and that she wasnt ready for a boyfriend.

Now whenever I see her, she totally ignores me when I say hi, yet I still want to be her friend, and she just doesnt want to know.

Have I totally screwed this up (i think i have), and how can i sort this out. i sent her a text saying cant we just forget about the past and move on, she didnt text back.

What should i do, should i just totally not say hello to her anymore, or what else shall I do, it's making me quite miserable because i've lost one of my best friends.........
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i am me

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talk to her. say sorry for makin her uncomfortable and just joke around with her like you would if you never asked her out.
 
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The Comeback Kid

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similar problem here, although the girl wasn't one of my best friends lol.

It seems there is always awkwardness (more on the girl's part) after a guy asks her out and she says no. :rolleyes:
 
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