Paranoia keeps me from meeting people

[Nygard]

Right what the title says. I¿m always suspecting things about everyone. for example, a friend is coming over tomorrow to watch the race at Talladega and I already make weird stories in my mind that have no basis, for example, I build the idea he might be a part of a gang of apartmentists (people who come into houses and steal everything), even though I met him at university and there's no chance a gang will be inside that there ( it's kinda expensive ). Bottom line is: I cant seem to trusts anyone and I worry too much.

Should I ask a psychologist or it's something I can overcome on my own? if so, give me some advice, please. I know many of you are awesome enough

 

[Desert Fox]

Nygard

I am 100% the same way.

However I smile at those thoughts and toy with them like it's a movie. But I always know I'm not in a movie and you do to. Just think back on your life...it's not a movie.

For example some girl called me to come over and talk. About what? She didn't say but she said she wanted to see me. immediately I thought "she wants something from me" like money or homework or whatever. So I started devising excuses, and eventually I settled on telling the truth: No because I don't want to.

Anyways I also thought about her wanting to BLACKMAIL me saying her jock buddies would kick my ass if I didn't. So I hotkeyed my cell phone to start the voice recorder/vid cam in case that happened.

Overkill? Yeah, but it soothes my mind and makes me feel kinda badass for being prepared all the time. Sh1t happens...the more I'm prepared, the more sh1t i can avoid happening to me.

So How do I deal with these very real feelings and thoughts?

I am always prepared. So basically if I suspect someone is going to screw me over, I deal with it by being prepared...and guess what it works.

I would NOT always be like this if IT DID NOT SAVE MY ASS A FEW TIMES!!!

My paranoia has SAVED MY ASS and PROVED ME RIGHT in so many cases. If it's something small, I let it happen, file the instance the betrayal or violation by this certain person into this person's file in the back of my mind and remember it forever. Next time...there won't be a next time.

It's a survival instinct, and I'm not gonna say it's common, but you're not alone.

 

[Nygard]

On my defense I live on a relatively dangerous country. So yeah, you kinda see where I'm coming from. It stills bothers me a little you know, because it sometimes keeps me from going out. Some stuff is too far-fetched to be true, like the thief conspirancy. but when I'm on the streets and there's somebody close to me, I kinda think of the probability of that man being a mugger or a hitman looking for a clean shot. Also, I just cant walk when somebody is near my back following me. those kind of stuff can save your ass, but when it goes too far it starts affecting your lifestyle toa point where everyone might be out to get you, and that's what I dont want.

 

[Desert Fox]

Nygard you just made me feel like a paranoid freak.

Which I probably am.

You live in Colombia and you say it's not safe there. I think your paranoia is legit. Get a weapon or something to protect yourself.

I live in the USA...muggings happen, but probably safer than Columbia. Yet I still think like this.

I think your reaction is normal. It's a self-defense and survival mechanism. Accept that part of yourself but always be REALISTIC. Get a reality check everytime your thoughts become too farfetched.