"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Paper and phone numbers

Alanxxl

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Hi guys,

For those of you who have practiced cold approaches and get girls phone number.

Is there any advise as to what kind of paper you guys carry so that you don't look too obvious?

PS. I'm 26 and I have never done cold approaches and performed the number close, but I want to get this part of my life handled. I will begin bootcamp this thursday.


Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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diablo

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I nominate this for "Weirdest question of the year".

Paper is paper. It's small, it's thin. You can use napkins, a folded sheet of looseleaf, or even paper money if you need to. I'm wondering why you'd even use paper to begin with - a cell phone is something you carry around with you, and it's got this cool ability to store people's names and numbers in it. :p
 

StrangeButTrue

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Maybe the guy doesn't have/cannot afford a cell phone.

I think it would be good to carry somethign around that doesn't make it look like you are trying to pick up chicks, like she just caught your eye, and you gave her a chance, as it were.

Like a crumpled up receipt or something. Don't go after it all frantic-like, be smooth and casually reach into your pocket, like it was just the first thing that came out.
 

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It's usually not an issue. If I don't have my cell, or paper and pen, the chick has one in her purse 90% of the time. If not, I just ask a passerby or a store clerk for one. Don't worry about "what kind of paper" to use. Unless it's like used toilet paper or something, it really doesn't matter.

-Dan

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Alanxxl

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Thanks for the replies Diablo, StrangeButTrue, Delta Male.

Yes I do have a cell phone, but I was under the impression that using pen and paper was perhaps more natural.

The one thing that bothers me with the cell phone is when you enter people names as I find it cumbersome.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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if I'm in a club I normally ask the bar man/door man for a pen an paper or use a flyer.

I once picked up an American girl once, got her number and stuffed it in my pocket but i forgot I had a hole in that pocket, when I got home the number had gone, haha. then I saw her a week or so later and she was all disappointed that I hadn't called.
 
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