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Ok, i've mentioned before about getting a stabbing kind of pain from doing squats just below my belly button, tonight i got it from doing deadlifts for the first time.

does anyone have any idea?

Also, when doing squats and back extensions (http://www.mothernature.com/images/library/books/PeakCond/Back-8.GIF)

I get quite a lot of pain in my lower back, and can't walk upright completly, i'm not sure if this is just due to the muscles because they are so tight after working them, or if i am actually causing harm?


cheers for any advice.
 

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TheNewGuy

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Not sure if it helps, but I used to (and still sometimes do, occasionally) get stabbing pains in the pit of my shoulder (imagine where the butt of the gun is when you go shooting) when I did pretty much any chest excercise.

Now that I've been working out for a couple weeks, it's been getting rarer and rarer so I think it might be/been just a weak muscle trying to push a lot of weight.

Does yours go away almost suddenly after you stop lifting, then start right back up when you're done?
 

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i used to get that on my stomach too on my heavy squats and deads. try working your abs heavily the day before leg/back day because your back and abs work together

if trainin your abs doesn't help it, i'd give yourself a break from the gym and let your back recover
 

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do a half mile jog before you work out. its usually cramping. once you do it for about a few+, it goes away
 

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Did you just start training?

If so, free weights tend to use a lot of stablising muscles. Thats why there was pain the shoulder and stomach.

Ease up a bit guys. I know people say you must go and push as much as you can, but the first 2-3 months, you are better off concentrating on building up a small foundation on which to improve.

Concentrate on using free weights, but aim for about 10-12 reps for the first little bit. That will get your muscles used to overloading them (the main aim of any wight training program. Overload leads to growth)

After a few weeks, your whole body will start to stregthen up a bit. Then you can start going a bit heavier. If its growth you want, you want to be working i the 6-8 rep range, which is where you should be failing.
 

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Keep the weight low for now so your form is always perfect. Remember to breathe and keep your back straight with squats.
 

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I've heard squats can damage your appendix. Be careful..
 

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Were you the same guy who posted that squats make your appendix burst?

You know, I rather think that if you stuck a bayonet into it, your appendix'd be damaged quite successfully.

Just keep good form and you'll be fine.
 
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