Technical1
Senior Don Juan
Pain and Profits of Transition
When you set out to pursue a new goal, live a new life, or in any way explore territory previously unknown to you, after awhile a strange dissonance begins to arise– as you stand halfway between your old life with all its comforts, and your new life, which is as yet too new to be completely enjoyable. The process of moving from one stage to another is painful. You have willingly given up some positives and assumed some negatives, and at the end of the night your brain sums up the difference and says: a net loss. You haven't yet learned to appreciate your surroundings and your mind whines like a child deprived of candy.
The pain of transition occurs when your heart and mind feel alienated from the life you created– the strange new life, the hard new life.
Strange, however, that this pain of transition is one of the most powerful motivators to growth and/or indicators of growth. Going through these stages is one of the things that literally makes a man. One could compare it to boot camp, or any trial-by-fire: whatever challenge you have set for yourself, that is NOT the path of least resistance and that you are pursuing for your own betterment, is in some way a rite of passage to a higher level of life and self-realization.
This is literally "paying the cost to be the boss". The CEO is distinguished not by his mad money or his ability to purchase rolex watches, but by the "sweat capital" (to borrow a term from RedPill!) which he invested in building up the company or in attaining his position. The athlete is distinguished by a hundred thousand hours in training. The Navy Seal is distinguished by 30 completed missions, many of which may have resembled a slowly unfolding real-life nightmare. The uninitiated can tell these men nothing about their respective areas: the character forged in these challenges however is silently broadcast to all surrounding people, who "sense" what you have and have not accomplished in your life. You subcommunicate your entire resume constantly.
When you raise barbells over your head for 10 reps, you put the weight down and feel a burning sensation in your arms and chest. Likewise, when you push yourself to work a 12-hour midnight shift, and are walking dazedly home under the light of the rising sun, your soul feels a burning sensation. You've killed off one more part of your inner weakling. Whenever you push yourself relentlessly towards a goal, a part of you dies on the inside: your inner weakling. You take a step towards manhood.
I just want to say, to the guy who is determined to do cold approaching, or the guy who moves to a new city far away, or the guy who takes a second job and works long hours, or the guy who decides to move his career in a completely new direction, or the guy who decides to NEXT his Oneitis after reading this website: the pain you will feel upon doing this is a supremely good thing. It should burn at first, if it doesn't burn, you aren't growing.
Why is this pain of transition the gateway to a higher level of life and self-realization? Because its precisely that pain or the fear of it which has discouraged 100,000 other people from seeking the benefits that come from that sacrifice. That you are man enough to absorb that hit for the long-term benefit, not only gives you the benefit, but the strength that comes from living through that pain.
At least, this is what I tell myself when I encounter these pains of transition.
ciao.
When you set out to pursue a new goal, live a new life, or in any way explore territory previously unknown to you, after awhile a strange dissonance begins to arise– as you stand halfway between your old life with all its comforts, and your new life, which is as yet too new to be completely enjoyable. The process of moving from one stage to another is painful. You have willingly given up some positives and assumed some negatives, and at the end of the night your brain sums up the difference and says: a net loss. You haven't yet learned to appreciate your surroundings and your mind whines like a child deprived of candy.
The pain of transition occurs when your heart and mind feel alienated from the life you created– the strange new life, the hard new life.
Strange, however, that this pain of transition is one of the most powerful motivators to growth and/or indicators of growth. Going through these stages is one of the things that literally makes a man. One could compare it to boot camp, or any trial-by-fire: whatever challenge you have set for yourself, that is NOT the path of least resistance and that you are pursuing for your own betterment, is in some way a rite of passage to a higher level of life and self-realization.
This is literally "paying the cost to be the boss". The CEO is distinguished not by his mad money or his ability to purchase rolex watches, but by the "sweat capital" (to borrow a term from RedPill!) which he invested in building up the company or in attaining his position. The athlete is distinguished by a hundred thousand hours in training. The Navy Seal is distinguished by 30 completed missions, many of which may have resembled a slowly unfolding real-life nightmare. The uninitiated can tell these men nothing about their respective areas: the character forged in these challenges however is silently broadcast to all surrounding people, who "sense" what you have and have not accomplished in your life. You subcommunicate your entire resume constantly.
When you raise barbells over your head for 10 reps, you put the weight down and feel a burning sensation in your arms and chest. Likewise, when you push yourself to work a 12-hour midnight shift, and are walking dazedly home under the light of the rising sun, your soul feels a burning sensation. You've killed off one more part of your inner weakling. Whenever you push yourself relentlessly towards a goal, a part of you dies on the inside: your inner weakling. You take a step towards manhood.
I just want to say, to the guy who is determined to do cold approaching, or the guy who moves to a new city far away, or the guy who takes a second job and works long hours, or the guy who decides to move his career in a completely new direction, or the guy who decides to NEXT his Oneitis after reading this website: the pain you will feel upon doing this is a supremely good thing. It should burn at first, if it doesn't burn, you aren't growing.
Why is this pain of transition the gateway to a higher level of life and self-realization? Because its precisely that pain or the fear of it which has discouraged 100,000 other people from seeking the benefits that come from that sacrifice. That you are man enough to absorb that hit for the long-term benefit, not only gives you the benefit, but the strength that comes from living through that pain.
At least, this is what I tell myself when I encounter these pains of transition.
ciao.