This just goes to show you that no matter how good it may look on the outside, there are still people with shame, embarassment, guilt, sadness, and feelings of unworthiness.
He's not a bad guy.
He's a great actor.
He could've been a co worker or pal of yours.
Yet, his perspective on life was fvcked up.
Everyone here needs to take a moment and really, really look at this guy.
And learn from his mistakes.
Really dig down deep and think..."You know, I don't really have it that bad after all. And I'm not a rich, famous, Hollywood star."
Be thankful for who you are.
And recognize your strengths. Recognize your goodness. And recognize your true worth and value.
And truly, I mean really, really make it a deeply held belief that NO WOMAN can EVER be the Key to your Happiness. You can NEVER, EVER place so MUCH emotional investment in ANYONE to the point, that if that person leaves you.......you might as well be DEAD.
No, gentlemen.
No, this is not allowed.
I won't allow it.
I will not see you fail like this.
This concept is entirely NON NEGOTIABLE.
NEver, ever give somoen so MUCH POWER over YOU, that you crumble when the are removed from your LIFE.
You must be STRONGER. You must NOT NEED EXTERNAL VALIDATION.
ANd you MUST realize that YOU are the sole creator of your Happiness, and Joy. Not another person. And certaionly not a person whom should never have been given the awesome responsibility of taking care of your happiness and well being.
No, my good friends. ONLY YOU are responsible for that.
Only YOU.Never, never place your SELF in the HANDS of OTHERS.
You may place a piece of Self. A piece of Love. A piece of Commitment. All of which can and should be surgically removed when we realize that they are not worthy of our Time, Effort, Consideration, Affection, Respect, Caring, Trust, and Love.
But you cannot place on the table your ENTIRE BEING.
For the person is often not worthy of this awesome task and responsibility.
And they shoudln't be, because that is not, and should not be, our very defintion of Romantic Love.
You must strive to never , ever get so DOWN that you scrape the bottom, and believe you are not worthy, thatyou can never "find" happiness again, and that no other woman can possibly replace "her", and that you will never find another woman as long as you live.
These are all false, my friends. False. False and toxic to your mind, body, and your poor souls.
I can bet a sh*tload of us in this forum have given more than a passing thought to just giving up entirely.
For some...it has been that bad.
Never look down on people who don't have the tools to deal with.
That could have been you , or someone you know.
Remember this guy's tragedy.
It's not that he lost the chick, it's that he did not recognize HIS VALUE as a Human Being, and what he brings to others on this planet.
What do yo bring to others?
What do you create for yourself?
Do you accept yourself? Honestly?
Or do you strive for others to validate YOU?
Do you give up your power?
Or do you keep it, and only share your Love with those who are worthy?
You are worthy.
You always have been.
But it's YOU that let yourSELF down, and was lead to believe that you are NOT "good enough".
When you think about this agin, strive to improve and change for thebetter. And strive to help those who cannot see for themselves.
IF at all possible, strive to display and demonstrate to ohters...as inspiration. For their own success.
Lead by example.
And by doing so, others will follow their happiness as well.
