I_Only_Live_Once
Senior Don Juan
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I'm not going to get into any complicated explanations as to how this works, because it is a totally emotional approach. At first I was planning on writing an article about how we could picture ourselves as a 3rd person perspective and pretend that we "take over our own body" so then it's not actually you inside your body (and thus no fear of rejection). It would be like having the mind control of someone else. But I think there's something that is much simpler than that and works better:
Remember the time when you saw a girl you liked but didn't have enough guts to go up to her. I'm sure your feeling was frustration at yourself. But why is it that us "nice guys" don't change? My hypothesis is that us "nice guys" bottle up that anger. Instead of acknowledging it to its full capacity, we bottle it up inside and supress it because we think anger is wrong. As time goes on, it becomes diffused. This is bad because real anger can lead to dramatic change.
When you're REALLY angry, you'll notice something about yourself: you become VERY focused. You don't care at any level what other people think about you, because you are in the zone. When you see that girl and you didn't approach her, instead of trying to bottle it up and ease it, release it and live your anger. It will feel natural. What this does is it makes you totally pissed off and willing to change. Remember the frustration. Do you want to feel like this again?
From a simple cause-and-effect, remembering how pissed off you really are will have the most dramatic positive effect to your life. You don't ever want to have that horrible frustration ever again. Next time you see a girl you want to approach, remember the anger, and you will become very focused. You will have successfully converted a strong emotion into something beneficial to yourself. You will not care about shyness, rejection, or anything else because your emotion has made you a driven man.
Remember the time when you saw a girl you liked but didn't have enough guts to go up to her. I'm sure your feeling was frustration at yourself. But why is it that us "nice guys" don't change? My hypothesis is that us "nice guys" bottle up that anger. Instead of acknowledging it to its full capacity, we bottle it up inside and supress it because we think anger is wrong. As time goes on, it becomes diffused. This is bad because real anger can lead to dramatic change.
When you're REALLY angry, you'll notice something about yourself: you become VERY focused. You don't care at any level what other people think about you, because you are in the zone. When you see that girl and you didn't approach her, instead of trying to bottle it up and ease it, release it and live your anger. It will feel natural. What this does is it makes you totally pissed off and willing to change. Remember the frustration. Do you want to feel like this again?
From a simple cause-and-effect, remembering how pissed off you really are will have the most dramatic positive effect to your life. You don't ever want to have that horrible frustration ever again. Next time you see a girl you want to approach, remember the anger, and you will become very focused. You will have successfully converted a strong emotion into something beneficial to yourself. You will not care about shyness, rejection, or anything else because your emotion has made you a driven man.
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