Outbreaks with my madre!

[HeyPachuco!]

Its like being in a constant-state of War with my mother. Insurgency 24 hours - 7 days a week, I don't know if its her Husband who is feeding her bvllsh!t behind my back and telling her what ''I should be doing'' and ''what I shouldnt be doing''

Everyday after work, she comes in, with this petty-rundown look on her face and gives me the cold shoulder, goes in to kiss her knucklehead husband and gives me a scum-look. She's been really busy at work recently so I put much of it to that, but surely, being a senior woman with past relationships, you must know how to handle you're family in times of your own hardships.

With her 6 years ex-boyfriend - she used to do the same thing. Side with him, agree to his rules and all the other unfair situations. She feels guilty for it now that she is not with him and yet she's starting it up all over again - she would rather tell me what I haven't done in the house than to ask me about my intentions for next year or how my career/life is going.

This is bad, but I honestly feel like beating her head with a plank of woodand her husband, he smokes weed/tobbaco constantly, so Im wondering is shes puffing in the exhale in that damn room - and making her the way she is?

Need a good vent, I'm looking forward to training tommorow, but then I have to come home and see her irksome-face. She doesnt even have to say anything, its just the atmosphere at home is like ''just an existing, not living'' one. - what can I do?

 

[HeyPachuco!]

I have a girl round, and everytime she's extremely standoff-ish - she's made my ex's feel uncomfortable with outbursts into my room, sarcastic jokes, dirty-looks and un-sociable. Things like,not cooking when ever a girl or any of my ex's where around in the house - but she'll cook for herself, my sister and her husband? But yet she expects me to be sociable with her husband and before with her ex-boyfriend.

Then she would sarcastically say things like, ''Why dont you go cook for you're girl'' and smerks. And I would usually go do this, but it just made things harder since there wasnt much to cook from, like testing me, infront of the girls. Lots of visible double standards going on here. I'm literally at the end of my tether with her behavourial problems and about to tell her some home truths - If I do this I'd be in grave danger, including a roof over my head - food - other family members notified about it which will Blacklist me. I'm just trying to live comfortably here until I can find a place of my own.

She gets like this when she knows I've had sex or finds Condom wrappers un-done or can see used Condoms through the see-through plastic bags in the duster.

 

[Dante420]

Wrong section but you'll get supportive replies here.

 

[sodbuster]

WHY are you living at home? Where is the job?college? Start your life! Then you can do what you want around the house[it's yours]. If you are a gamer sponging off Mom and her BF, you deserve all the hell you are catching. My sons can live here if they want during college[I'm betting they won't], but they know a 21 year old slacker will get his ass kicked to the curb and a suitcase tossed after him.

 

[Scion]

My mother has similar behavior. I get the feeling she hates me since she's ALWAYS criticizing me. Like telling me it takes me so long to get through school (she started with this the second year of my undergrad) and randomly yelling at me when I still lived with her. God forbid if I got annoyed with her because she'd just run off to her husband, tell him that I was mean to her and he'd give me the third degree. Ended up knocking out one of her ex-husbands because he threw a punch at me. She even got mad at me when I joined the military. But she supports my sister with all her stupid ****, pays for my sister and her boyfriend's share of the rent (because my sister doesn't work and her boyfriend is a bum) plus gives them money for food, car, etc (in total about 700-800 a month).

Anyway, I'm planning on breaking contact with her once I move from where I currently live (live with my sister and her loser boyfriend, mainly because it's cheap).