"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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out to eat, girl prefers dad over me?

golf299

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so here's what happened and left me clueless:

i went out to eat with my dad tonight. we get to the restaurant and there is a cute girl (hb 8) waiting to seat us. i walk up to her, tell her how many we have and that we'd prefer non-smoking.

she looks at me and tells me that they might have one non-smoking table but she'd have to look. she asks me if we'd take a smoking table if that was the only choice. i tell her that we'd take the smoking but check to see if there's a non-smoking table first.

during the short convo, we have good eye contact and smiling on both of our parts.

after she gets done checking, she comes back to us. she talked talking again, but everytime she made eye contact, it was with my dad. he's not a bad looking guy, but he is 60+ yrs old! he didnt say a word to the chick ever, yet she was continually addressing him when she spoke, over me.

i showed alpha traits: walked right up to her, told her what i wanted, and gave her good EC. what went wrong?? did she just find me unattractive or what?? doesnt make any sense...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TooColdUlrick

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she was looking at your dad because she was thinking that's what you're gonna look like in 40 years.

either dad is a DJ or you are reading way too much into this.

waitresses get paid to be nice to you and smile and EC.
 

JJMcLure

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It's just the same way a salesman always addresses the person who is the decision maker.

It wasn't about attraction, it was about who she figured was in authority in the situation.
 

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your dad has something you dont have ......
1. experience
2. VIAGRA
lame reasoning but trust me
 

Dust 2 Dust

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She saw him and probably assumed he was the one paying the bill so she gave him all the attention. It's the same way strippers will gravitate towards older men in the club.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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