"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Out of town chick

volkme68

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Over the weekend, I went to the city and got a few numbers at the club/bar. I go to school about an hour away. Normally, I would ask a girl to coffee or tea for a first date when I call her, but considering the girls go to school in the city and hour away, should I do it differently?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If you've got a couple of numbers, maybe set up 2 coffee dates at the same time, if not plan it for a time when you happen to be in town. I might call them and chat them up for a bit to keep their IL up in the interim.

How realistic is it for you to travel there on a semi-regular basis?
 

volkme68

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not really. On weekends maybe or here & there. I am in ROTC, so PT every morning early and I have a heavy credit load. I'm willing to drive up, but not all the time.
 
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