Opening her Sexually

[WORKEROUTER]

I've been dating my gf for about three months now. There have been a few issues in the past, but I have successfully patched them up, and feel that our relationship is currently stronger than ever.

Prior to meeting me, she was a virgin. I myself wasn't, but being only 18 at the time, not very sexually advanced either. My biggest mistake was trying to live up to a flawed "macho" persona when it came to sex. Rather than aiming for mutual pleasure, I was more focused on proving myself. Since then I've changed my outlook.

I'm still trying to become better in bed--not only for myself, but also for my gf. As I'm her first, I want to put her on the right path when it comes to having sex. Basically, I just want her to really enjoy it.

Naturally a shy girl, she gets uncomfortable talking about sex. Part of this in my opinion stems from her own insecurity about her own self. But I feel that this is impeding in the intimacy of our relationship.

Don't get me wrong--we have a good time together--but I feel that if I could make her more comfortable in general, and particularly when it comes to sex, our level of intimacy could become deeper, and our relationship stronger.

Any suggestions or advice?

 

[Macgyver]

I think you need to build more verbal/physical rapport with this girl.

 

[DarkLight]

Ya... I think the verbal/physical rapport line is sort of in the right direction.

Specifically, I would try to reframe her entire outlook on sex, and intimacy. And I would do this through my behaivor about it, when with her, or in those scenarios. I would make it as natural and positive as you can. Do everything you creatively can to associate sex/intimacy with new "anchors" in her mind. Compliment her. Talk about how good it felt, etc. Make it magic, romantic, fun, just every possible spin you could on it, in different positive directions.

Maybe even try this out. When going through your myriad positive twists on the subject, and interactions. Be aware to one that she's really receptive to. Thats your window. Now build this anchor, more and more subtley.

Like personally I fvckin love recieving oral (like all men, lol). But anyways, with my last ex... I literally built it up. How much I liked it. How amazing she was. How extra sexy she was, when she would spontaneously go down on me. Etc etc etc. I just built up a whole new perspective and energy around it. Turning her, a chick that didn't really like to give oral, into a fvckin hoover. lol

All I can hope for you to gleam out of this is... start using your magic with her. Pychological influence, spells of words/behaivor. Experiment with her, and see how she takes to your behaivor and perspective on it. Then build on the slight windows you see. And if there aren't windows, no worries. Just keep doin your thing in this line... and you'll see some little openings developing.

Maybe another good thing is... to let her become the aggressor. Sort of the opposite of how you said the sexual dynamic used to be. Find a creative way to flip the script. But do it slowly and subtly. Not grabbing her, and flipping her on top of you. Ease into sh!t. Maybe a massage. You give her one first, then switch... and now she's the one doing to you. Then use my other suggestions above, and while she's massaging you... build her up. Beautify her touch. Make her feel like you've never experienced such feelings, and their coming from her. Glorify the babydolls sensual side. Make it seem divine and extraoardinary.

She'll feel so fvckin special in that regard... she'll love it. That side will slowly start developing. She'll want to know more of that side of herself. And you just go ahead and lead the way. Literally fvcking her mind into the blossoming you want to see... in every little manner you can.

Thats about all I can think of right now... lol. I'm about to pass out from the fvckin gym. Peace'

P.S. Your honesty is solid. Respect!