"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ValidusRaDiX

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Heres the story.

Im not a DJ, work in progress.

I called my local telephone company, the operator was this girl who was peppy and cheerful, the reason I called was cause I was pissed off at them, but when I heard her I could'nt be angry. I told her "I was gonna be pissed but you sounds to cute" more conversation followed, she digged me and called me that night. We have talked alot on the phone, many many hours at a time. She lives a couple hundred miles away. So very good chance of meeting her.

Anyway my problem is she got me to open up about personal stuff you know feelings and what not, but she shared much about her feelings aswell. I dont mean feelings for eachother but very personal feelings about family, life, and the past. So we both were talking about such things. She could tell I was kinda freaked out. She asked if I wanted to hang up and I said yes, and that I wish she had'nt messed up a good thing by bringing up this conversation and that I would probably not speak to her again because I was embaressed(I dont think I should have said this, shows weakness?). She said "ok", I said "bye" and she said "bye."

I'm just thinking how can I recover from this cause I really dig her? Should I just call her tomorrow and lay down some smooth talk, maybe it isn't a problem at all?

thanks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by ValidusRaDiX

I'm just thinking how can I recover from this cause I really dig her? Should I just call her tomorrow and lay down some smooth talk, maybe it isn't a problem at all?

thanks

Um go out with girls that live near you and you know what they look like.
 
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