What is the first thing you must do in order to see? You must open your eyes if you wish to see. The next question becomes what are you looking for and how do you know when you have found it.
Many of you are still in the dark about dating, women, and life in general. I'm sure there are plenty of you that resent the feeling of being controlled or for that matter not being in control.
I'm not talking about being in control over a girl, your emotions or other people. I'm talking about being in control of your life, and yet the very things we seek dominion over are the very things that prevent us from being in control of your life.
Some of you seek to gain control over women. That becomes your focus and you try to understand them and learn ways to control them. Yet the object of your very attention comes to have control over you. You gauge yourself by how well you control women, how many dates you go on, and how many women you sleep with. Should you fail to meet the yardstick you set for yourself you will feel miserable. Should you succeed the need to constantly repeat your success will turn dating and sex into monotonous excersizes in the affirmation of this yardstick you placed upon yourself.
This is why the board is plagued with the same questions and problems, the same tips that in fact have no point to them. It is because the ideal behind being a DJ has change into some kind of one minded matra "I must have this woman, I must have this woman." That is not the point of this place.
Becoming a DJ is an act that is meant for a single purpose. The enrichment of your life. You read more, have hobbies, appreciate the arts and music, embrace sports and excersize. Beacause these things are enjoyable and help you to see whats really important in life. People talk about how its selfish to be interested in ones self. We only live one life, and when it comes to an end we must face how we have lived that life. We are judged by our Creator, by ourselves and those who know us. Live the best life possible and aviod slighting your neighbor and being helpful from time to time and you will have done a kindness for the both of you.
When you lead the life you want and find joy in it, dating becomes easier. Because happiness attracts those seeking it. It will be seen in you and be a beacon to others both men and women. They will both want your friendship and the women will naturally want your love. Because love coming from someone who is happy and won't be brought down makes them feel "extra special" as a previous girlfriend whispered in my ear.
With a happy life comes confidence, comes charm, come mystery and challenge. The logic is simple you are confident because you are happy. That inspires a certain charm to come across in the expression of your mood. Mystery occurs because the expression of your mood makes you playful and the act of creating a mystery stems from a playful nature. And challenge is born because when one's life seems so complete and one has all these good things going for them. It becomes a challenge to get your attention, to be convinced that you want them, and a challege to fend off competition from other women seeking you.
First apperances are important. But you do not have to be a calvin klien underwear model. Dress in a style that is comfortable and seems to fit. But appearance is not just clothes and colonge along, it is how you carry yourself. Acting like angry, unbalanced freak or a sad, unconfident sap, or a trashy moodless goth is not going to get you nowhere fast. When you carry yourself high, but not in a stuck up manner you will get attention.
With in every single person is the ability to detect deciet and decode what a woman is really trying to communicate. We are born with truely two sets of eyes. The one in our hearts that tell us what is truely going on in a situation, though we tend to drown that voice out. And the set of eyes we see in the mirror everyday, which has the ability to play tricks on our mind and lets us see the things we want to see.
If a gal can't be straight with you, there's a problem. If she seems not to be interested, there's a problem. If she can't look you in the eyes or everywhere else in the room when you ask for the truth, there is a problem. If you are waiting on her to make the first move, there is a problem. When you have doubt about her or her intentions, there is no doubt, there is a problem. If she cheats but you feel its worth a second chance, there is certainly a problem.
There are some certain indisputable truths about dating after you have made the first move. You will get a yes or a no. That no maybe weak or subtle but it is definately a no. She will toss you signals no matter how subtle and if you are intuitive enough you will pick them up. The best way to gauge interest is whether or not she wants to go on that second, third, fourth date. The best way to gauge her in general is to judge her actions, her words maybe pretty but you can't see words when they shy away from you or do something contradictory to what is really meant. There are no real hard and fast rules to dating, just lessons to be learned from trial and error.
The best DJ practice is this set reasonable goals whether it be dating or not and set out to accomplish them. Once those goals are achieve, make more goals.
The best approach can simply be "Hi" or humor if the situation allows. In either situation use a smile, it helps break the ice. Don't be afraid to use KINO, just use it at the right time and appropriately.
Seek advice only when you truely don't know the answer. Most of the time you know what needs to be done and you just need to have your opinion validated. Or to hear a louder set of voices saying you're wrong.
Have these two attitudes: You can win them all, but its d@mn hard. Only through victory and defeat come experience.
Stop being blind and looking for others to make your life they way you want it. Open your eyes.
-Grey Fox
Many of you are still in the dark about dating, women, and life in general. I'm sure there are plenty of you that resent the feeling of being controlled or for that matter not being in control.
I'm not talking about being in control over a girl, your emotions or other people. I'm talking about being in control of your life, and yet the very things we seek dominion over are the very things that prevent us from being in control of your life.
Some of you seek to gain control over women. That becomes your focus and you try to understand them and learn ways to control them. Yet the object of your very attention comes to have control over you. You gauge yourself by how well you control women, how many dates you go on, and how many women you sleep with. Should you fail to meet the yardstick you set for yourself you will feel miserable. Should you succeed the need to constantly repeat your success will turn dating and sex into monotonous excersizes in the affirmation of this yardstick you placed upon yourself.
This is why the board is plagued with the same questions and problems, the same tips that in fact have no point to them. It is because the ideal behind being a DJ has change into some kind of one minded matra "I must have this woman, I must have this woman." That is not the point of this place.
Becoming a DJ is an act that is meant for a single purpose. The enrichment of your life. You read more, have hobbies, appreciate the arts and music, embrace sports and excersize. Beacause these things are enjoyable and help you to see whats really important in life. People talk about how its selfish to be interested in ones self. We only live one life, and when it comes to an end we must face how we have lived that life. We are judged by our Creator, by ourselves and those who know us. Live the best life possible and aviod slighting your neighbor and being helpful from time to time and you will have done a kindness for the both of you.
When you lead the life you want and find joy in it, dating becomes easier. Because happiness attracts those seeking it. It will be seen in you and be a beacon to others both men and women. They will both want your friendship and the women will naturally want your love. Because love coming from someone who is happy and won't be brought down makes them feel "extra special" as a previous girlfriend whispered in my ear.
With a happy life comes confidence, comes charm, come mystery and challenge. The logic is simple you are confident because you are happy. That inspires a certain charm to come across in the expression of your mood. Mystery occurs because the expression of your mood makes you playful and the act of creating a mystery stems from a playful nature. And challenge is born because when one's life seems so complete and one has all these good things going for them. It becomes a challenge to get your attention, to be convinced that you want them, and a challege to fend off competition from other women seeking you.
First apperances are important. But you do not have to be a calvin klien underwear model. Dress in a style that is comfortable and seems to fit. But appearance is not just clothes and colonge along, it is how you carry yourself. Acting like angry, unbalanced freak or a sad, unconfident sap, or a trashy moodless goth is not going to get you nowhere fast. When you carry yourself high, but not in a stuck up manner you will get attention.
With in every single person is the ability to detect deciet and decode what a woman is really trying to communicate. We are born with truely two sets of eyes. The one in our hearts that tell us what is truely going on in a situation, though we tend to drown that voice out. And the set of eyes we see in the mirror everyday, which has the ability to play tricks on our mind and lets us see the things we want to see.
If a gal can't be straight with you, there's a problem. If she seems not to be interested, there's a problem. If she can't look you in the eyes or everywhere else in the room when you ask for the truth, there is a problem. If you are waiting on her to make the first move, there is a problem. When you have doubt about her or her intentions, there is no doubt, there is a problem. If she cheats but you feel its worth a second chance, there is certainly a problem.
There are some certain indisputable truths about dating after you have made the first move. You will get a yes or a no. That no maybe weak or subtle but it is definately a no. She will toss you signals no matter how subtle and if you are intuitive enough you will pick them up. The best way to gauge interest is whether or not she wants to go on that second, third, fourth date. The best way to gauge her in general is to judge her actions, her words maybe pretty but you can't see words when they shy away from you or do something contradictory to what is really meant. There are no real hard and fast rules to dating, just lessons to be learned from trial and error.
The best DJ practice is this set reasonable goals whether it be dating or not and set out to accomplish them. Once those goals are achieve, make more goals.
The best approach can simply be "Hi" or humor if the situation allows. In either situation use a smile, it helps break the ice. Don't be afraid to use KINO, just use it at the right time and appropriately.
Seek advice only when you truely don't know the answer. Most of the time you know what needs to be done and you just need to have your opinion validated. Or to hear a louder set of voices saying you're wrong.
Have these two attitudes: You can win them all, but its d@mn hard. Only through victory and defeat come experience.
Stop being blind and looking for others to make your life they way you want it. Open your eyes.
-Grey Fox