"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Online Dating got me down.

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I am a member at Okcupid.com
I keep sending out non-needy emails to chicks that I find attractive. I barely get a reply. why are girls even on this page if they don't want to do something as simple as a reply. It messes up my real world self-esteem. I seem to get no shortage of attention though from black girls - who I do date and love BUT, I do want to date a white girl for a change (I am white myself). I don't know if it's my profile. I darn sure don't come off as needy. My profile is kinda aloof funny and showcases a few of my cool interests and aspirations. these girls aren't even that hot either - they are like 7s at best. What gives? I ain't ugly.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
I am a member at Okcupid.com
I keep sending out non-needy emails to chicks that I find attractive. I barely get a reply. why are girls even on this page if they don't want to do something as simple as a reply. It messes up my real world self-esteem. I seem to get no shortage of attention though from black girls - who I do date and love BUT, I do want to date a white girl for a change (I am white myself). I don't know if it's my profile. I darn sure don't come off as needy. My profile is kinda aloof funny and showcases a few of my cool interests and aspirations. these girls aren't even that hot either - they are like 7s at best. What gives? I ain't ugly.

Dude first off

Online dating favors women not men, for every email you get a chick gets a 100. NO B.S.

online dating is at an disadvantage for men, and you most likely will get fatties, or baby mommas (my experience)

post your profile though I am curious to see whats up with it

But online dating is whack, you're better of doing cold approaches, or keep sending emails until you meet someone
 

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i joined Okcupid years ago when my then GF wanted me to do some personality tests,in the 1 year i actually bothered to use that profile once or twice a week, i had exactly 3 msgs exhanged total with women other than my gf.

all three from AW who just wanted me to know they thoght my pink shirt was sexy, and i should chat with them when i was online. when asked, none wanted to meet up in real life, just share pictures and 'gossip' about their new looks. bah, they can go **** a cactus for all i care now!

IMO Okcupid is a pure ego boost for chicks and a fallback for when the men in their lives aren't giving them the "attention they deserve".
 

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When I was on those sites, I had about a 90% reply rate. Why? because I wasn't boring them with the same bs everyother guy was. I was just making jokes about them, and throwing in a one or two compliments.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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SharinganUser said:
When I was on those sites, I had about a 90% reply rate. Why? because I wasn't boring them with the same bs everyother guy was. I was just making jokes about them, and throwing in a one or two compliments.
Well then, more power to you, i haven't bothered with online dating in over 2 years so i can't say i have tried throughly. I'm content with my own social network. If it works for you though i can't see why it can't work for others.

OKCupid is what sparks my ire, from what i remember it was a rainbow party of emo and gossip.
 

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I don't do the whole online thing, even tho I did have a high reply rate, there is just to many *****s, teases, fatties and ugos to sort through on the web. It's much more convienent to meet someone in real life on the way to or at whereever you are going.
 

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SharinganUser said:
I don't do the whole online thing, even tho I did have a high reply rate, there is just to many *****s, teases, fatties and ugos to sort through on the web. It's much more convienent to meet someone in real life on the way to or at whereever you are going.

c/s

Cloneo

You a good looking cat, you live in a city where there are a lot of single women, why not go out on the field? and the reason why black chicks are hitting you up is because you live in a city that's what 70% black. Sisters love themselves a brother (white/black anyone) whose got **** going for himself, which you do

Go out on the field, day game, night game whatever I guarantee you the quality of women are much much better, looks and personality wise.

peace
 

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
I am a member at Okcupid.com
I keep sending out non-needy emails to chicks that I find attractive. I barely get a reply. why are girls even on this page if they don't want to do something as simple as a reply. It messes up my real world self-esteem. I seem to get no shortage of attention though from black girls - who I do date and love BUT, I do want to date a white girl for a change (I am white myself). I don't know if it's my profile. I darn sure don't come off as needy. My profile is kinda aloof funny and showcases a few of my cool interests and aspirations. these girls aren't even that hot either - they are like 7s at best. What gives? I ain't ugly.

Ive done well on online dateing sites over the years. Id say that going to the gym and having a topless pick is pretty important. also going about messaging the girls in the right way. Im also white and got messages from black women, didnt find it hard to find enough white women to keep busy all the time instead though. Just common sense things really, if your messaging a white girl who's favorouite musician is 50cent, chances are she might prefer black guys.
 
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