What defines a relationship guys? Or better yet, how do relationships start?
If you are like me and not an AFC, then you know relationships don't start when you meet a woman. It happens after you have established comfort and hopefully hooked up. Ideally, it should be the girl to ask the man to be exclusive.
Oneitus is the term given to the fools who fall in love or experience rooted emotion around a women before a relationship has been established. This is wrong because, for one thing, most people don't know what they want -- they respond to stimuli and dreams. Since they don't know what is really in front of them, they must create an illusion and live by that illusion.
This is the illusion of love and it is the symptom of oneitus.
A personal example
In my more hazy days (not very long ago though) there was this girl calling me every day asking me to lunch. She was defiantly attracted to me and me to her. We went into comfort phase naturally (that is just the way it happened) but.. in the comfort phase, I felt a connection. This connection was defiantly an illusion. I thought in my head "yea this girl will probably end up being my girl-friend pretty soon"
Of course I telegraphed this. The fact that it went through my head, the fact that the illusion existed altered the communication between me and her. I became nervous, lost solid trains of thought, and overall acted like a wuss-bag around her. I found myself overly quiet and I couldn’t bring myself to even touch her! I remember those last moments of tension where if I didn’t make a move it would be over. I didn’t recognize it at all. I figured she’d always be there to give me more chances to make a move. The longer I waited, the more awkward it got between us. Then, it ended.
(I will ALWAYS remember those moments as a lesson for life. Never be afraid to make the move when your instincts tell you to. She wants it more than you, you fool! She is waiting, go do it.)
The reason this was so revealing and I related this to oneitus was after the oneitus came in (before I even hooked up with her), she completely stopped calling me!! I did NOT understand. It was confusing, a bit traumatizing, and frustrating. It was as if she just dumped me, but we were NEVER going out!
I understand this was a more major AFC case of oneitus.
The oneitus was defiantly caused by my thoughts getting ahead of my reality.
Now I tell you, never have oneitus before relationships because the person you are "in love with" is nothing more than yourself. It is your dream you are in love with, not the person.
To avoid oneitus, one must be the alpha at ALL times and know they have the choice of any woman. If a woman comes along that is more special, you must NOT acknowledge that she is special and treat her the same as every other woman!
Why is that, you may ask. I will tell you.
She is NOT special... but your dreams of her are. That is all. Things are NEVER what they seem; they are only what they are.
You're dreams are grand and filled with orgasm after orgasm, yet in reality, even if you did **** her, she probably wouldn't fulfill your sexual desires. Something would go wrong.
Quit expecting things of people, especially if they aren’t your true loved ones. Only expect the best from yourself and life.
When you do want a girl, I HIGHLY suggest following Mystery's method at least generally. Defiantly be the alpha, high status male at ALL times and be the great catch.
If you do it right, she WILL want you more than you want her. Life is beautiful isn't it? Yes it is.
So take in a DEEP breath, and out with that breath may your illusions of love escape. Work on your reality, not your dreams!
If you are like me and not an AFC, then you know relationships don't start when you meet a woman. It happens after you have established comfort and hopefully hooked up. Ideally, it should be the girl to ask the man to be exclusive.
Oneitus is the term given to the fools who fall in love or experience rooted emotion around a women before a relationship has been established. This is wrong because, for one thing, most people don't know what they want -- they respond to stimuli and dreams. Since they don't know what is really in front of them, they must create an illusion and live by that illusion.
This is the illusion of love and it is the symptom of oneitus.
A personal example
In my more hazy days (not very long ago though) there was this girl calling me every day asking me to lunch. She was defiantly attracted to me and me to her. We went into comfort phase naturally (that is just the way it happened) but.. in the comfort phase, I felt a connection. This connection was defiantly an illusion. I thought in my head "yea this girl will probably end up being my girl-friend pretty soon"
Of course I telegraphed this. The fact that it went through my head, the fact that the illusion existed altered the communication between me and her. I became nervous, lost solid trains of thought, and overall acted like a wuss-bag around her. I found myself overly quiet and I couldn’t bring myself to even touch her! I remember those last moments of tension where if I didn’t make a move it would be over. I didn’t recognize it at all. I figured she’d always be there to give me more chances to make a move. The longer I waited, the more awkward it got between us. Then, it ended.
(I will ALWAYS remember those moments as a lesson for life. Never be afraid to make the move when your instincts tell you to. She wants it more than you, you fool! She is waiting, go do it.)
The reason this was so revealing and I related this to oneitus was after the oneitus came in (before I even hooked up with her), she completely stopped calling me!! I did NOT understand. It was confusing, a bit traumatizing, and frustrating. It was as if she just dumped me, but we were NEVER going out!
I understand this was a more major AFC case of oneitus.
The oneitus was defiantly caused by my thoughts getting ahead of my reality.
Now I tell you, never have oneitus before relationships because the person you are "in love with" is nothing more than yourself. It is your dream you are in love with, not the person.
To avoid oneitus, one must be the alpha at ALL times and know they have the choice of any woman. If a woman comes along that is more special, you must NOT acknowledge that she is special and treat her the same as every other woman!
Why is that, you may ask. I will tell you.
She is NOT special... but your dreams of her are. That is all. Things are NEVER what they seem; they are only what they are.
You're dreams are grand and filled with orgasm after orgasm, yet in reality, even if you did **** her, she probably wouldn't fulfill your sexual desires. Something would go wrong.
Quit expecting things of people, especially if they aren’t your true loved ones. Only expect the best from yourself and life.
When you do want a girl, I HIGHLY suggest following Mystery's method at least generally. Defiantly be the alpha, high status male at ALL times and be the great catch.
If you do it right, she WILL want you more than you want her. Life is beautiful isn't it? Yes it is.
So take in a DEEP breath, and out with that breath may your illusions of love escape. Work on your reality, not your dreams!