"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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jeffthechef

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I'm usually in a type of mood, out of the few I have.
That Good mood...my base mood..
The "let's get it on cause i'm fcking horny" mood
The compassionate/reflective mood

I like to hangout and cruise with friends, party, dance, play sports, all that guy ****. But, I know i'm not the most typical male teenager in one sense.
NONE of my friends know...that I REALLLY care about others and the world. I voluntarily do community service. and i cry when i see others suffering.

People say, "Men don't cry." I believe this applies to most situations...because most things aren't worth crying over.

I think i cry once every 2-4 months...and every time i do cry...its when i'm in this reflective mood...and it's always triggered by something..a movie, song, etc.....the last time i cried it was while watching a documentary on the holocaust..the time before that it was one about chemical warfare used on the kurds by hussein...

i think this is one thing most guys in hs need to think about a little more. too often, i see guys who don't know each other trying to intimidate each other...they stare each other down and are probably thinking what i thought about when i was fcking 5 yrs old.. When i was 5, whenever i saw a group of kids that were the same age as my group of friends, i would play out a fight in my head...matching people up and imagining the whole thing.. I stopped doing that probably in the 5th grade...then when i developed this mood..i started seeing strangers (guys) as future friends

i'm writing this simply as a reminder...because i've seen too much **** during the past few days...people judging others by what they wear, how weak or strong a guy was, and how smart or stupid a person was in their class, things that really don't make a person...

less judging..more compassion

here's a song that really triggered this post
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WoFKE4cdi70

"One Tribe, One Time, One Planet, One Race
Its all one blood, don't care about your face
The color of your eye
Or the tone of your skin
Don't care where you are
Don't care where you been
Cause where we gonna go
Is where we wanna be
The place where the little language is unity"

"Cause man I'm loving this peace
Man, man, I'm loving this peace
Man, man, I'm loving this peace
I don't need no leader
That's gonna force feed a
Concept that make me think I need to
Fear my brother and fear my sister "

"We are one people
Let's cast amnesia, forget about all that evil
Forget about all that evil, that evil that they feed ya "

"The evil one is threatened by the sum [sum]
So he'll come and try and separate the sum
But he dumb, he didn't know we had a way to overcome
Rejuvenated by the beating of the drum
Come together by the cycle of the hum
Freedom when all become one [one]
Forever "

"One love, one blood, one people
One heart, one beat, we equal
Connected like the internet
United that's how we do
Lets break walls, so we see through
Let love and peace lead you
We could overcome the complication cause we need to
Help each other, make these changes
Brother, sister, rearrange this
The way I'm thinking that we can change this bad condition
Wait, use you mind and not your greed
Let's connect and then proceed
This is something I believe
We are one, we're all just people "

"One world, one love, one passion
One tribe, one understanding
Cause you and me can become one."

Bep makes good songs...but they are really good at making these types of songs...and they convey the message that i'm trying to get across with this post.


we're all brothers and sisters...we're all people
all of us can feel pain, can love, can feel happy...striving for something greater...we really are ONE.
Knowing this as TRUTH, how can i hate or even harm my brother?

I know some of you guys are going to read this and not think anything of it. You're going to continue with your life, thinking about you.

BUT i do hope that all of us by the end of hs, or at least at some point in our lives..reach the point where we can feel the pain of others, whether they are homeless people sleeping under bridges or people on the other side of the world surrounded by war...a point where we CARE MORE ABOUT OTHERS than ourselves
...and realize that EVERYONE IS like YOU
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ice882

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thoughtful post. However, its important to realize that many men "put on" their tough, insensitive, personalities as a veneer to protect themselves. From what? from a world full of men whom they believe are actually insensitive and brutish. What men fail to realize is that many people are acting - all day long, monitoring and controlling what they say and do to maintain a specific image. It is my sincere belief that the majority of men are as thoughtful and introspective as you and I, Jeff. They just refuse to show it. They are scared to show it.
 

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i think you're right ice
and this post is a good example..because it took quite a whijle to get even one response

however, i think that is a problem...that men have to act tough...cause it's stupid

that's exactly how violence is created...when guys act tough...even if it's just a front..things get started regardless

and the truth is, 95% of the guys who front in this world...don't need to
these guys live in middle to upper class families..live in rural areas..and probably will never experience a true threat besides that **** in one of their classes who has nothing better to do

why bother acting?...if a guy thinks you're weak because you dont act tough, he'll confront you..then you'll wisely ignore him...and if he decides to get physical..you whoop his ass

better yet, why not have everyone stop acting...being a man does not mean being the stereotypical "tough guy"
 
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