"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nimloth32

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I just wonder if a girl interested in you, and you did not make a move...will the gal eventually shift her attention on the other guy???
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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nimloth32 said:
I just wonder if a girl interested in you, and you did not make a move...will the gal eventually shift her attention on the other guy???
Yes. Strike while the iron is hot.
 

guywhoneedshelp

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It depends on how preoccupied (immature) the girl is. If it's one of those girls who still live at home and get text messages all day long from "her girls" and she always has some type of a social event going on, you really have to push it. On the contrary, if you just met a girl who just recently moved to your area for college or something she is more open to meeting new people, and you wont have to push as hard.
 

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yea far to many times it has happened to me. Lesson learned don't "wait" for the moment "just do it". Rejection is better then regret.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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nimloth32

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ok..then does a girl likes a guy who likes to gossip too much???..
 

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Make your move early rather than later. It's never too soon; all she can do is say no.
 

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nimloth32 said:
ok..then does a girl likes a guy who likes to gossip too much???..
Men gossip? If you are trying to attract other men, then yes, gossip.
 

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It would be best if you read some of the material on the main site to learn a bit about attracting women.

And no, gossip does not make a girl like you in the way you'd like. They'll like you as a gossip buddy... if that's your aim.
 

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I have found that women will tend to look at a man gossiping in a bad light. Deep down, they know women are the gossipers and that they expect a man to rise above that sort of thing. This is entirely on a subconscious level.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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