One-itis? LJBFed?

[carlitos]

Long story short, I met this really cool chick (or so I think) and somehow it ended up to be a one-itis situation for me as much as I shouldn't have let it happen. At first the vibe was great we made a lot of plans but then I think I showed too much interest so now she's kinda avoiding me (or so I think). I tried to pull back as much as I can and didn't really talk to her for a while. We live in the same building so I see her all the time and now things are going a little awkward. My questions are:
1. Is this situation still savable considering that it hasn't gone to the extreme? What I mean by this is that I never confessed and she never straight up LJBFed me, but I can feel the vibe somewhat dying down or at least I'm kinda out of words when I see her.
2. I know the logical thing to do is the game as many other chicks as possible but somehow I just can't really focus as well anymore nor do I feel anyone else at this moment even though I do talk to a lot of girls (just talk). What do you guys recommend to do in situations like this?


Details?
-At our first conversations she asked who my best friend is (I've only been in this town for a week) and I said "you". Even though half jokingly I still think I sent off the wussy vibe?
-Lets say I pulled some jealousy plotlines but I don't think they worked too well, would this be a make or break situation?
-At parties she always come close to me either standing next to me or dancing right in front of me with her friend but never acknowledge me. I don't know what she's trying to pull here.

Any suggestions?

 

[WC2]

We've all been in your shoes. I've been there once.

I read your whole post, but the bottom line is- You need to forget it. I know you will read that, but you need to DO IT. Just trust me man, I've been there many times. One-itis is something that builds up in your brain. She may be a good girl, but I guarantee there are plenty of others out there.

When you forget it, don't forget it because you want to attract her, but for yourself. TRUST ME. Spin your plates on other things like other women and friends. Mark my words, this girl will NEVER come for you while you still are obsessed with her. The only chance in hell you have of any future with her is if you drop your emotional feelings for her and move on.

You'll not only succeed in giving yourself a better chance with her and other women, but you'll succeed in making yourself a better person.

I've been there man, and it was bad. Take my advice.

 

[carlitos]

Yeah man thanks for breaking it all down, I needed that. I know logically never get into one-itis but when it hit me it was kinda hard, especially knowing that I COULD have had this girl but I made some stupid mistakes. Anyhow everything is starting to make more sense now and I need to get my game back.

By the way do you also know if there is a direct transition between the eye contact and sex? I know it doesn't happen all the time but I've seen it both in movies and real life. Essentially it's like an instant bond almost skipping foreplay or something like that?

 

[WC2]

Yeah man thanks for breaking it all down, I needed that. I know logically never get into one-itis but when it hit me it was kinda hard, especially knowing that I COULD have had this girl but I made some stupid mistakes. Anyhow everything is starting to make more sense now and I need to get my game back.

By the way do you also know if there is a direct transition between the eye contact and sex? I know it doesn't happen all the time but I've seen it both in movies and real life. Essentially it's like an instant bond almost skipping foreplay or something like that?

Good, you need to realize the sooner you stop thinking about her the better. As time goes on, it will just get worse.

I don't know what you mean by "direct transition". If a woman holds eye contact with you she obviously is interested. It doesn't mean your getting sexed, but she wants to know more.

 

[MacAvoy]

WC2 hit the nail on the head, your only going to compound the problem if you think about her, especially because you are in a new town and don't have a large support network.

However there is also an upside, you can go out and meet a bunch of new people. Start finding new plates, just go out and meet people and the dates will come.