So I have been seeing this girl for the last 6 months. I have to say that at first I was not quite outgoing with her given my introverted nature, but that did not deter me. I admit I could have been a bit awkward on the first dates where I could not maintain eye contact due to shyness and she noticed it. This improved in later dates and we have been going out regularly. Despite my shyness though, I have managed to escalate and it doesn't bother me that much, but I could try to improve. By all indications so far, she is interested in me based on the connection we have which she termed as amazing. One bugging issue though is that of late she keeps referring to me as shy even when we have our conversations. Last night for instance she told me "Goodnight shy guy" I didn't react instead I just responded goodnight. So what exactly is a girl trying to convey when she calls you shy even amidst conversions? Some insights needed thanks.
You remind me a lot of myself, years ago. The following reply is going to be pretty tough because that's the only way you will get out of your comfort zone. I wasted YEARS being comfortable and trust me, nothing changes. You miss out on beautiful and healthy women because they see you as being socially awkward.
Connections are nothing, my man. That's just the stuff that will make you sound like the sentimental guy around your peers--cut it out. At some point, this woman has thought about when you're going to kiss her, when your going to touch her body and turn her on and when your going to man up, push her on a bed bang her hard.
If you don't make a move and escalate like a Mustang instead of a Prius, another fella is going to take your girl, f*ck her without mercy and she's going to like it and tell you she wants to be just friends. It may be too late already. I don't even know if there's still hope for you. There's only one way to find out. Don't think of this response as a fellow DJ giving you advice, think of it as life sending you a message telling you to wake the f*ck up (no bashing, this is all out of love and self-development purposes for you, my brotha) and stop being a wimpy guy.
I know my tone is not very friendly, but I rather you get the hint and get offended her here than you getting screwed by some chick who ends up using you or banging another dude. Call this chick. And in a firm and friendly tone say "Hi (NAME), I was thinking about your earlier, what are you doing Friday night? Let's go do (INSER ACTION DATE HERE)." And when you go out and meet her, kiss her in the cheek and hug her.
Here are a few resources:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dBZyFMd6La4
Read "No More Mr Nice Guy"
Being socially disconnected is a lack of skill. Being smooth is a skill. You're going to need to make mistakes and fall before you learn how to ride without training wheels. And it's all doable. Would you be afraid of a skinny and short dude? No. Then why are you scared of a 5' 2" skinny chick? You can do this. Start today.
