Older women acting like teens?

[alirezazimi]

so i started dating this girl whom was about 5 years older than me (im 24) and like many other inexperienced men, the girl apparently controlled the depth of our relationship. i.e. she made the first "moves" to get more romantic of physical or whatnot.

after a while, when things kinda climaxed, she suddenly started pushing me away (remember she had the control?), asking for more space. still she was the one occasionally asking for "less" space when i moved away from her!
this went on and we got more and more distant. she wanted a more open relationship. less romance. and eventually no sex.

but she didn't want a breakup!

so naturally, things ended after a fight.
but she still pokes around here and there. she wants to meet sometimes. maybe makeout a little.

so after a while, i realized she is doing the same with one or two other boys.
so here's my question: Why?!

well other than the obvious explanation of "she's a *****",
i cant seem to start to understand this kind of personality and "push pull" action going on in it.

i dont want to be with her obviously,
but i feel like it's a very general and common (in different degrees) in many women.

so how do you deal with this phenomena? how do you approach and control this type of personality?
is there even a name for it?! or it's just another disorder and to be avoided?

 

[AttackFormation]

You can't fix these women, just don't waste your time emotionally with them and see them for the cvmdumps they are. Stop asking yourself "why"-questions about her behaviour and just learn that chronic pattern of bad behaviour = avoid getting emotions for her which is easier said than done because so many guys will think she's a special snowflake and rationalize her behaviour or think it won't happen to them.

 

[nismo-4]

Drop her ass unless you just want to be in the friendzone. She wants to control this. Don't let her.

Case closed. Get out of my court.

 

[Dreesy]

This is narcissism, plain and simple. She feels lack of worth, most likely subconsciously, and puts herself in situations where she can be the "prize".

Purely ego, nothing to see here!

 

[alirezazimi]

well she's gone for sure!
thanks guys!

so what you say is, basically these kind of women are entirely unapproachable?
doesn't that go against the whole "don juan" philosophy?!

I mean,
someone someday will get these women. so who are they and what sets them apart?

 

[Skyline]

Don't let a girl, or anyone, control you and the chances of women doing that to you will be very low. As long as you stand up for yourself and embrace your masculine side then everything will fall into place, including women. Don't be so weak and needy next time.

 

[VladPatton]

well she's gone for sure!
thanks guys!

so what you say is, basically these kind of women are entirely unapproachable?
doesn't that go against the whole "don juan" philosophy?!

I mean,
someone someday will get these women. so who are they and what sets them apart?

No, it doesn't go against our philosophy. Our philosophy is to be cool about women, check them out, see what they're all about very early on, and if you don't like something to have the balls to walk away before they can manipulate you. No hating, no drama needed.

It's like walking down the street and you see a big pile of dog shıt. Do you step in it? Do you stop to examine it? No, of course not, it would be too messy, too nasty, so you step aside and you continue on your merry way and you don't look back.

Avoid the dog shıt, my friend.