Old female friend driving me nuts! What should I do?

[formerdon]

There's this girl who is sour about me shunning her after she showed interest to me exactly 4 years ago. I shunned her because I was ENGAGED at the time and I didn't want to get involved with another girl. I guess it hurts her pride that she fell for me and got shunned, now she's really acting jealous/rude/psycho.

I know her from church (quite a hypocrisy eh?) a few years ago but she's been harassing me telling me to lose weight every single time she runs into me in the streets/bars/restaurant. The thing is she does it SUBTLY and NATURALLY enough so that my wife can't really be sure if she's just trying to be bluntly rude or making a comment that normal close friends can make.

I don't run into her often since I switched churchs and don't go to those single-bars anymore but I still run into her maybe every 6 months or so.

I'm 170lb and was always the same weight for the past 9 years out of college so I'm not sure why she's suddenly making it an issue, especially cuz I am not THAT overweight matter of fact more muscular than not.

She didn't exactly say she liked me but she did imply through nonverbal implications, asking me out to have a drink (this was 2 months before I was getting married), telling me her personal stuff, crying, revealing her innerself... and driving me home at 3am, coming inside until I told her I'm sleepy and left... so I'm quite sure she was interested in me. If I wasn't engaged at that time, things might have gone farther but I controlled myself at that time.

I had to block her from MSN, email and not invite her to our house parties to not get involved in the temptation. I eventually unblocked her a year when I felt more comfortable about the situation but I realized this time around she's blocked me and turned somewhat psycho.

Since then she's been telling me I need to lose weight for the past 3 years every time we run into each other (about 6 months). Even when I told her to stop it verbally, through emails, through phone. When confronted, she just says "It's the truth". I think it's safe to confirm that she's just doing this to annoy me since she already knows I don't like it.

I tried to ignore her but she's got the psychopathic nerves to come walking towards me and wife, act like she is so happy to see my wife (me thinks just so that it makes it harder for wife to express offendedness to someone who's friendly), and then sooner or later this b**ch goes on with her remark about my weight straight to my face (doesn't ask me how I'm doing or anything) afterwards she says bye bye to us and takes off.

It never bothered me before but after hearing that for the past 200th time I'm about to run out of patience and become a mushroom cloud TNT , race car in the red if I hear one more word out of her mouth.

The other day I was about 5 neuron-impulses away from slapping this crazy girl silly, but who wants to get arrested for assault and battery. Maybe I will since my record is clean so the most I'll get is community service? LOL I'm gonna try to be civil about it and maybe just yell at her next time but nothing really seems to get through this dense psychopath.

I mean... She comes at me even harder when I ignore her. Ignoring doesn't work, so confronting this bizatch seems to be the only option. I feel bad if she was hurt after I shunned her because back then she was a great friend, but nothing more. Now... it's really dissapointing to know the other side of this girl, that she can turn into a wierdo about such a small thing. maybe it's not small to her but who knows.

Need to stop this girl from harassing me... I am open to all suggestions but please read the whole thing and understand it thoroughly. It would be great if she could turn into her old self in which case I can hvae my old friend back but at this point in time, she drove me to the point of closing my heart at least for now.

I've considered lawsuit, restraining order, but I don't know if I want a stupid lawsuit court record come up when people search court records about me.
Also, this is the kind of girl who has the potential of digging through old emails and counter-sue me using some of the jokes we sent each other as her case, framing me for things I didn't even do. Maybe a lawyer-drafted cease and desist nastigram to scare off the biyatch might do the trick...

However, she was such a good close friend back then so I do try to give my benefit of the doubt and understand as much as i could but now she doesn't even respond to emails when I try to have a conversation. She's clearly become different and is very angry about something although she never tells me when I confront her...

 

[Macgyver]

Change your number, block her email. Just plain cut off all contact.

 

[formerdon]

you didn't understand the post...

All she does now is subtly harass me with those verbal remarks, telling me that i gained weight and need to lose weight, every time I run into her in the streets.

She does not send me any emails or even call anymore... just says subtle harassing things to me whenever we meet.

When it's just a one time remark, it's not that annoying but when it becomes a 200th time same remark, it really gets annoying.

 

[spider_007]

Why does her opinion matter at all??? I mean, you are married, she is not in your social circle, you don't see her often............why do you care.

If you really want to play her stupid games (i'd rather walk past her as if she wasn't even there, with my Beautiful wife by the hand, bi*ch can eat her hart out) there is something you can do. As politely as she points out your fat, you laugh it off and point out her foults.....

eg;
her; Hey formerdon, looks like you packet on a few pounds
you; Oh thanx, my wife really likes it, Oh I DIDN'T KNOW YOU WARE PRAGNET!!!!

or

you; hey, it happens when your wife takes good care of you, YOU GETTING MARRIED ANY TIME SOON. Come on don't tell me you can't find somebody......clock is ticking......

(or you can be blunt)

you; I've always been like this, what's your excuse!!

notice the slap in the face at the end of each answer
you need to learn how to make fun of your self and except your foults.

(fyi if your older then 25 you could get better answers in "mature forum")

 

[00Kevin]

She is the kind of woman that knows exactly how to lower a mans ego. She is a trained professional. She is playing a power game with your head and the fact that you had to post here proves that she got to you.

You are lucky you didn't get hooked on her. You made the right choice to avoid her.

Try to become more of a man and understand that this little girl is underdeveloped mentally. Most importantly, she shouldn't be an issue in your head at all

 

[00Kevin]

Why does her opinion matter at all??? I mean, you are married, she is not in your social circle, you don't see her often............why do you care.

If you really want to play her stupid games (i'd rather walk past her as if she wasn't even there, with my Beautiful wife by the hand, bi*ch can eat her hart out) there is something you can do. As politely as she points out your fat, you laugh it off and point out her foults.....

eg;
her; Hey formerdon, looks like you packet on a few pounds
you; Oh thanx, my wife really likes it, Oh I DIDN'T KNOW YOU WARE PRAGNET!!!!

or

you; hey, it happens when your wife takes good care of you, YOU GETTING MARRIED ANY TIME SOON. Come on don't tell me you can't find somebody......clock is ticking......

(or you can be blunt)

you; I've always been like this, what's your excuse!!

notice the slap in the face at the end of each answer
you need to learn how to make fun of your self and except your foults.

(fyi if your older then 25 you could get better answers in "mature forum")

how many brain cycles is this women worth?

I can see what you are saying, but a real man wouldn't even think about her let alone try to come up with a fancy thing to say.

 

[spider_007]

how many brain cycles is this women worth?

I can see what you are saying, but a real man wouldn't even think about her let alone try to come up with a fancy thing to say.

Exacly, it's kinda why i said this:

Why does her opinion matter at all??? I mean, you are married, she is not in your social circle, you don't see her often............why do you care.

If you really want to play her stupid games (i'd rather walk past her as if she wasn't even there, with my Beautiful wife by the hand, bi*ch can eat her hart out)

 

[formerdon]

yeah, i ignored her but how can you not get offended if the b*tch walks toward you just to annoy you. like i said i wasn't offended by it until the 10th time she starting saying it. this b(*ch is seriously suffering from inferiority complex and attention-deficit-disorder.

I think next time b*tch teases about my beer-belly to me, I would lose my temper and end up yelling at her at the top of my lungs and scare that fafo (father f**ker) back to her ho-hole where she belongs.

I can try to remain calm and retort with equally offensive come backs, but I want to send the message as clear and loud as possible on the first shot.