"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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OkCupid's "My Best Face" feature

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Just for the heck of it, I gave OKCupid's "My Best Face" feature a try. The stuff I wrote in my profile is in top notch shape, but I'm not exactly getting women banging on my inbox, so I figured I'd find out what pictures were grabbing women's attention.

The feature is pretty good. It runs your pictures randomly along-side some other schmuck's picture, and the woman has to choose who she'd date based on the photo alone. I'm not the most stellar-looking guy out there, but I don't have a foot growing out of my face either.

When I got my first batch of results back, I was surprised. I had different photos of me wearing different clothes, and a good chunk of them attempted at being genuine. The picture I thought would rate first place actually rated second. My best rated picture wasn't of me looking my best, it was me doing something funny, and it ranked in the low-60s. (over 50 = choosing you more than 50% of the time)

It made perfect sense. Women will choose things based on an emotional reaction rather than physical attraction. The picture made them laugh.

The next thing I did was run another batch of pictures through this thing. I picked mostly pictures of me doing funny 5hit. When the results came back, I had a new winner. It's a picture of me happily posing with a model skeleton. My second-best picture was my winner from the last round. My previous second-best picture now rated at #7 on my list.

Of course, having nothing but pictures of me doing stupid 5hit will likely make a girl think that I'm a total nutcase. I took the best pictures from my first round, the best from my second round, and threw in some genuinely normal pictures to level things out. My profile now consists of pictures that rated from 55-70% preference, most of them voted by women.

If you haven't used this feature, I highly suggest trying it out and getting some top-notch pictures on your profile.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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