Ok im about to reach my boiling point because im obviously doing SOMETHING wrong here. I need advice... like people to ask me detailed questions about what i do.. and compare it to what they do or something. Let me count how many numbers ive gotten in the past week. Ok, i got 12. Out of these 12, no dates. When i meet the girls, they all seem interested, then they flake. Ill give a couple scenarios here. This one girl that i met at a party, her and I got along really good, flirted, we were both kinda drunk.. then she gives me her number. I call her, she never calls back. I next her.. then just say F it and call again, she seems cool and says some reason why she didnt call. Never calls back. Nexted again. This other girl i met cuz she worked at a bar, her and I get along really good anda have good conversation. I try calling but the line is busy, then next time i call no answer. I just leave a msg which never got returned. After about 7 days, i try again because i remember that this girl has 2 jobs and is going to school so she probably doesnt have much time to herself. When i call, everything goes good. We talk, she gives reason why she didnt call but she got my msg. We set up a date for when we both are on winter break... she says she wants to hang out, and when asked about a boyfriend she says no they broke up. When I meet a girl to get her number, the situation is... i havent talked to her very long at all... so when i go to make the first phone call, wont she feel like im a stranger and say no to me asking for a date? Here goes an example of one of my more recent girls i talked to on the phone after getting the number.
D4H: Hey wassup its D4H
HB: OH HEY! wassup how was your thanksgiving!
D4H: It was good, and yours?
HB: yeah u know, the usual.. eat alot and drink wine.
*small talk occurs*
D4H: Yeah so how about when we get back to school we hang out or something? We can go see a movie.
HB: <giggles> well, i did tell u that im sorta talking to someone right now didnt i...
D4H: you said you broke up with your bf...
HB: yeah, i did, im still sorta talking to someone however.
D4H: I dont see any marriage rings, and you guys dont officially go out do you
HB: <giggles> this is true.
D4H: (Trying to just end the convo so im not on the phone that long) Well ill give you a call later and see if we can set something up to hang out
Also, over thanksgiving break i was at the super market with my mom and while i was walking around by myself, i seen this HB7 who i approach. I start talking to her, ask her name, how old she is, tell her that im in colllege... blah blah blah.. and when i ask for the phone number she says she has gotten in trouble for giving out her # while working before. She said she was gonna go ask her boss if she could get a break so she could talk to me... so she walks over to some young guy who looks about 22 or so.. and is talking to him. DUring their convo he continues looking over at me. I just leave for a bit and then when i come back i say to him "Yo wassup playa, wheres slim at?" he goes "Why?" i say "cuz i was tryin to get her number, did she not wanna holla at me or something?"... and he says "well you sort of intimidated her". I say "why cuz im a big tall black guy? lol" and he says "i dunno, i guess just how u approached her she was scared of you". So my question is... if im dressing like a "thug" i guess u would call it (i wear caps, jersies, chains, etc)... and i approach a girl thats white... am i scaring her off? I mean, when i talk, i smile and everything seems cool.. but i guess i may come across as intimidating cuz of my size/race/clothes.
If you dont want to give advice just give me the break down of the last girl you went out with.
- Where you met her
- First thing you said to her
- Description of convo/chemistry
- How you closed for the number
- What the first convo was like
- How you set up the date
Id like advice on how to try getting the next HB i see... some things to try based on what works for you. If not, im gonna just keep bumping the thread, im kinda frustrated at this point.
D4H: Hey wassup its D4H
HB: OH HEY! wassup how was your thanksgiving!
D4H: It was good, and yours?
HB: yeah u know, the usual.. eat alot and drink wine.
*small talk occurs*
D4H: Yeah so how about when we get back to school we hang out or something? We can go see a movie.
HB: <giggles> well, i did tell u that im sorta talking to someone right now didnt i...
D4H: you said you broke up with your bf...
HB: yeah, i did, im still sorta talking to someone however.
D4H: I dont see any marriage rings, and you guys dont officially go out do you
HB: <giggles> this is true.
D4H: (Trying to just end the convo so im not on the phone that long) Well ill give you a call later and see if we can set something up to hang out
Also, over thanksgiving break i was at the super market with my mom and while i was walking around by myself, i seen this HB7 who i approach. I start talking to her, ask her name, how old she is, tell her that im in colllege... blah blah blah.. and when i ask for the phone number she says she has gotten in trouble for giving out her # while working before. She said she was gonna go ask her boss if she could get a break so she could talk to me... so she walks over to some young guy who looks about 22 or so.. and is talking to him. DUring their convo he continues looking over at me. I just leave for a bit and then when i come back i say to him "Yo wassup playa, wheres slim at?" he goes "Why?" i say "cuz i was tryin to get her number, did she not wanna holla at me or something?"... and he says "well you sort of intimidated her". I say "why cuz im a big tall black guy? lol" and he says "i dunno, i guess just how u approached her she was scared of you". So my question is... if im dressing like a "thug" i guess u would call it (i wear caps, jersies, chains, etc)... and i approach a girl thats white... am i scaring her off? I mean, when i talk, i smile and everything seems cool.. but i guess i may come across as intimidating cuz of my size/race/clothes.
If you dont want to give advice just give me the break down of the last girl you went out with.
- Where you met her
- First thing you said to her
- Description of convo/chemistry
- How you closed for the number
- What the first convo was like
- How you set up the date
Id like advice on how to try getting the next HB i see... some things to try based on what works for you. If not, im gonna just keep bumping the thread, im kinda frustrated at this point.